We all have our histories, we all are taught other histories then we shape our lives on both versions one which maybe true than the other. Think about this:
As an African proverb from the Ewe-mina tribe notes:”Gnatola ma no kpon sia, eyenabe adelan to kpo mi sena.” meaning in English “Until the lion has his or her own storyteller, the hunter will always have the best part of the story.”
For the men who wrote the Declaration of Independence, the emphasis was on the right to pursue happiness. Today those word are often interpreted as the right to be happy. More so on the Social Media, but also on revered newspapers like the New York Times.
Thinking you have a right to be happy fuels anger or despair when you are not happy. If you get angry, you feel it is right to fight those you blame for making you unhappy.; not useful. If you despair, you are blaming yourself, also not useful. We all want to be happy, but life is full of pain as well as joy. False expectations of happiness dim the possiblity of enjoying what we can enjoy.
Moreover, the media, particularly those selling stuff, knows that not being happy fuels sales. Why images of perfection and mottos like “Just Do It” have a destructive side. Why I often suggest you practice imperfection and the contentment that comes with “good-enough” or “the best I can do for now.”
A MEGA Emotional Fitness Training tip
Learn to spot twisted thinking in others and in yourself. Because personal desires twist everyone’s thinking; which is why Emotional Fitness Training demands partnering heart and brain. The more you know about twisted thinking, the better you code reality which is essential if one is to act wisely. Here’s a quick look at how some thoughts get twisted as we pursue our dreams and desires.
I pursue sharpening my thinking skills in two ways. The easiest ways is looking for examples of the above in social media.
The second way is to take opposing view points in arguments whether I believe the opposition or not. That is why many think I am a Right Wing Conservative and others a far out Leftist, and a few others a Libertarion. Mostly I try to be an independent thinker and vote issues not labels.
This post was somewhat inspired by this WordPress Daily Prompt. Revisionist History by Michelle W. Go back in time to an event you think could have played out differently for you. Let alternate history have its moment: tell us what could, would or should have happened?
Not that I followed the post, but it did prompt my thinking about history – personal and otherwise.
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LINKS OF INTEREST
These links are for those not familiar with Emotional Intelligence or the idea of Emotional Fitness.
- Emotional Intelligence (en.wikipedia.org)
- The five components of emotional Intelligence (www.sonoma.edu)
- About Emotional Fitness Training (emotionalfitnesstraining.com)
- An Emotional Fitness Program for Parents (amazon.com)