Being able to accurately name your feelings is a major Emotional Fitness Skill. This article gives some hints.
Emotional Fitness Training, Inc. suggests becoming more aware of feelings in general by asking yourself off and on during the day “What am I feeling now?” Use the feeling thermometer on our blog pages to learn to rate feelings and give them a general name, then try giving the feeling of the moment a more specific name.
Theorist and researcher Jerome Kagan says feelings should always be named in terms of their context. “Angry because I am stuck in traffic and late for work.” “Scared of walking alone down this dark street.” “Irritable because I didn’t get enough sleep last night.” Such specific names help you think about if and how to act on the feeling.
Once I learned to name the feelings connected to getting everyone out of the house and off to school or work–“Arsenic Hour Anger”, I did three things to make those times more bearable. I made a special effort to do some organizing the night before; I got up an extra 15 minutes early; and I reminded myself to focus on good feeing that waited when I could sit down and have my second cup of coffee. Didn’t take all the tension out of the morning rush, but made them less poisonous.