Freedom? What Does It Mean?

What does freedom mean to you? What enslaves you today?

All are not free or restrained in one way for another. Children are restrained, but hopefully not oppressed. Employees are restrained but have some choice. Old age has restrained me, and some days feels like oppression. Chronic illnesses and handicaps restrain. Nike and Oprah’s saying “Just do it.” do not help those restrained in one way or another.

What to do? The best you can with what you have been given and where you are at the moment. Sometimes the best means pulling the covers over your head as you crying helplessly.  Other times you might be able to put on a happy face and manage to do what needs doing. And hopefully, at times the happy face is genuine and you do all you want to do.

Emotional Intelligence and Emotional Fitness both emphasize choice. Both also emphasize facing reality. The two must go hand in hand.  If all you can do at one time is crying helplessly that is the reality of the moment. Just do it. Then when you can do more just do that. When your happy face is genuine be grateful and do your things. 

SOME FINAL WORDS

Practice kindness by reading, liking, commenting or sharing this post.  Then Consider buying Defang Fear In All Its Disguises. 

It costs $2.99 which is less than a latte, lasts longer, and does more good. Also, it is free to those with  Kindle Unlimited. 

Katherine

These links are for those not familiar with Emotional Intelligence or the idea of Emotional Fitness.

 

 

Finally: Published. Not Perfect But Good Enough

Does fear make you do things you regret?

Keep you from doing things you want to do?

ABOUT THE BOOK

Defang Fear is information dense and offers many ways to pull fear’s teeth from your being. Learning a few of the exercises will rid you of the small fears that nip at you. Such fears are mosquito bites; annoying, but you can brush them aside and get on with your life.

The bigger fears that hold you back need more work. These are overblown survival fears and boil down to fear of pain and that includes psychological pain. Why the book also offers an intensive self-help program.  

The specific fears addressed in the book include:

  • shyness

  • fear of speaking up in meetings or the classroom

  • test and performance anxiety

  • fear of riding an elevator

  • terror at stepping into a swimming pool

  • useless worrying that keeps you up at night

  • fear if being found flawed in one way or another (pursuing perfectionism)

WHY I WROTE THIS BOOK

As some of you know I have dysgraphia. If you don’t know, that is a learning disability that means constant imperfection when it comes to spelling and grammar.

I spent countless hours in the fourth grade rewriting the days spelling words. I was told by my high school English teacher told me  I would fail Freshmen English if I even got into college.

I made it to college. First semester, the English professor called me to his office before grades were issued. I thought he was going to tell me I failed. Instead, he apologized and said my spelling errors made it impossible for him to give me an A+. He encouraged me to major in English.  I did. 

As an English major, I got mostly A’s. One professor gave me A over F (A for content, F for spelling and grammar) which rounded out to a C. 

I wanted to be a writer. My father was a reporter, aka as a journalist in the jargan of today. I wanted to follow in his footsteps. but that seemed impossible given my dysgraphia struggles. 

Moreover, when college ended I needed a job. My father used one of his friends to get me a job as a social worker. I fell in love with helping people. 

Eventually, I got my Masters Degree at Bryn Mawr’s Graduate School of Social  Work and Social Research. Not because I could spell or punctuate properly, but because most of my professor’s realized I had a brain and thought critically. 

Given the above, how did I become a published author? Five things made that possible.

One: I love writing and when writing for myself in my journals, spelling errors did not matter. I have been writing since I learned to hold a pencil. 

Two: Word processing made my writing more error-free, note the word more.

Three: Becoming a Special Need Foster Parent, which meant I had an interesting tale to tell.

Four: Great support beginning with my parents, then the teachers and professors who saw my strengths as well as my weakness, the editors who put up with my dysgraphia, and finally, I married a man who supported my hopes, dreams, and efforts. He pushed me to places I never thought I could reach.

Five: Crazy as it may seem, having dysgraphia also played a part in my becoming an author. How? Mostly by forcing me to live with good-enough as perfection was never to be mine. 

SOME FINAL WORDS

Practice kindness by reading, liking, commenting or sharing this post.  Then Consider buying Defang Fear In All Its Disguises. 

It costs $2.99 which is less than a latte, lasts longer, and does more good. Also, it is free to those with  Kindle Unlimited. 

Katherine

These links are for those not familiar with Emotional Intelligence or the idea of Emotional Fitness.

 

 

A Think About What Matters Poem

Practicing Gratitude this way strengthens your Emotional Intelligence and is a Daily Emotional Fitness Exercise.

Practice e kindness by reading, liking, commenting or sharing this post.  For additional advice and tips visit my Amazon Author’s page. My eBooks are priced ninety-nine cents and up. Paperback books are a bit higher but still reasonable.

Katherine

These links are for those not familiar with Emotional Intelligence or the idea of Emotional Fitness.

 

 

HUGS, WANTED AND NOT WANTED

 

Hugs strengthen your Emotional Intelligence the Emotional Fitness Training way

Take the first quote very seriously, some find hugs painful, particularly when not asked if one is wanted.  Children, in particular, should always be asked. 

Practice kindness by reading, liking, commenting or sharing this post.  For additional advice and tips visit my Amazon Author’s page. My eBooks are priced ninety-nine cents and up. Paperback books are a bit higher but still reasonable.

Katherine

These links are for those not familiar with Emotional Intelligence or the idea of Emotional Fitness.