Improve Your Emotional Intelligence: Say What You Must, But Don’t Say It Mean

No matter who you speak for, you will help more if you speak calmly and politely. That means not speaking in anger, but calming down. Calming Breaths help. How to take a Calming Breath: 1. Breathe in slowly to a count of five. It is helpful to tighten all your muscles beginning at your toes …

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Improve Your Emotional Intelligence: Decision Making

Uncertainty about most things opens the mind to alternatives. According the human development expert Jerome Kagan, uncertainty is as strong a motivator as hunger or sex. Too often it is turned into anger, despair, or fear.  Anger if we can find someone to blame. Despair if we blame ourselves. Fear if we cannot resolve it. …

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Angry? Time to Right A Wrong: Five Tips

Anger is hurt or pain transformed into the readiness to  fight. Anger is not the problem. What is? What we need to fight and how.  Being attacked physically? Your survival at risk? Someone you love under attack? Even then fighting is not always the answer.  Survival often depends on how fast you can run, on …

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Three Ways to End Hurtful Discussions

Another’s stupidity or angry ranting always pushes you to raise your voice and fight back; but fighting angry yelling by yelling back never works. Never. Image by http://funny-pictures.picphotos.net/ Emotional fitness thoughts and tips We are told to “Let it all out.”  Not good unless done the way Aristotle suggests in his famous quote: “Anybody can become …

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