Flattery: Just Another Way to Lie

One of my father’s favorite sayings was “Flattery will get you no where.” Sometimes with a hint ot grin he would say, “Flattery will get you every where.” Both statements are true. One comment about the original definition of flattery noted that it started as a description of self-deception. You do lie to yourself when …

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Sandwich the Bad: Six Tips to Make Criticism Palateable

Emotional Fitness Tips Tip One: Criticism always hurts. Some deal with the hurt better than others, but we all want to be above criticism. At the same time, real friends do not let friends walk around with broccoli between their teeth. Moreover, good friends must always speak up when safety of anyone is a problem. Tip Two: …

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SAY WHAT YOU MEAN, BUT DON’T SAY IT MEAN – Six EFTI Tips

Even when you do not say it mean, you risk friendships. Ask me, I know. This poster by my friend at Gaping Void prompted me to post a bit about feedback.  Feedback is a way to say what needs saying so it might be heard. Warning: Getting a Ph.D. in the art of providing feedback …

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5 Tips for Being Honest and Caring

One definition of unconditional love: “I love you because of your good and despite your bad.”  It also means being brave enough to criticize. EMOTIONAL FITNESS THOUGHTS One of my favorite family therapists Virginia Satir, noted that a true friend, “Tells you when you need a deodorant or a mouth wash.” I have been  most …

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