Thinking Of Ending A Friendship? Think Again

Too many people are saying dump someone who makes you unhappy. Good advice if being physically abused, good advice when first getting to know each other, bad advice  for “antique” friendships. Better to deal with what the other person is doing that hurts. However, as a  wise man by the name of Gregory Bateson, said …

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Flattery: Just Another Way to Lie

One of my father’s favorite sayings was “Flattery will get you no where.” Sometimes with a hint ot grin he would say, “Flattery will get you every where.” Both statements are true. One comment about the original definition of flattery noted that it started as a description of self-deception. You do lie to yourself when …

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QUALITY CONVERSATIONS MATTER MOST – FEEDBACK TIPS

To get the best from any conversation, try feedback. If you cannot  say what you mean and  say it nicely, stay silent. PARENTING TIP Teens delight in arguing. It marks their growing ability to think critically. Good except when the try to involve parents in a Gotcha War. Then, silence on the parent’s part is …

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SAY WHAT YOU MEAN, BUT DON’T SAY IT MEAN – Six EFTI Tips

Even when you do not say it mean, you risk friendships. Ask me, I know. This poster by my friend at Gaping Void prompted me to post a bit about feedback.  Feedback is a way to say what needs saying so it might be heard. Warning: Getting a Ph.D. in the art of providing feedback …

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