How to be a Gotcha War Winner

What is a Gotcha War?  Any argument where the other person tries to make you look like a fool, so s/he seeems virtuous. I learned about Gotcha Wars as a foster parent caring for troubled teens.  Many were dedicated Gotcha Warriors.  Why? The cartoon says it all. Sad feeling fact: bullying usually begins with feeling weak …

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ANGER MANAGEMENT

WHEN ANGER VISITS, WHAT DO YOU DO?  As Emotional Fitness Training, Inc’s  CEO and Jill of all, I know exactly what I need to do when anger visits.  That is one of my areas of expertise.  Does that mean I always manage to do the right thing?   No. Anyone who says they handle anger well all …

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STAYING STRONG TIP

Who bullies you? Who do you bully? The urge to out power another seems part of humanity’s DNA.  This means we all bully or are bullied, hopefully not abusively.  This advice meant for parents and children, but much of it works for all power struggles and that is what bullying is all about. Top Strategies …

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PARENTING

WINNING A GOTCHA WAR   Excerpt  adapted from my book Parents Are People Too. Teens blame parents, it is a shift from the thought processes of a younger child.  Younger children blame themselves; teens can think more broadly and see not only their flaws, but the flaws of their parents. A sophisticated form of blaming occurs …

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