NO SHAME ON YOU

Shame has only one purpose. To keep you from doing the unthinkable. What is unthinkable behavior?  Murder, torture, sexual abuse of other living creature. Guilt is the gate keeper to shame.  But being the humans we are, both guilt and shame are two edged swords cutting us needlessly or cutting us free of needed restraints. Confession: …

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Guilty? Try the Two-step Guilt Disposal Dance.

Guilt is one of the bad and sad emotions sapping  the good from life.  Guilt weakens your #emotionalintelligence.  Guilt is at its worse when remembering things past.  Here’s how to dump past guilts. First today’s emotional fitness laugh. Guilt serves as one of the life force’s way of keeping us doing right; shame being, its …

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SHUT THE DOOR ON SOMEONE? FEEL GUILTY?

This post is not about slamming doors, but  about guilt carrying.  If you still feel guilty about long ago stuff, you are not alone.  I am with you.  I am a guilt carrier and   poorly handled guilt erodes emotional health what others call emotional intelligence. The guilt I carry forward about the few  doors I …

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Parenting

SHAME IS USEFUL We must learn to live together as brothers and sisters or perish as fools. Martin Luther King,  American political activist The biblical story of Cain and Able illustrates  the difficulty of raising an Abel and not a Cain.  One popular  book preaches that one can have Siblings Without Rivalry.   Wishful thinking. …

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