How To Get Real And Improve Your Emotional Intelligence.

Making nice-nice all the time is dishonest, secretive, and not just what politicians do. We all do it. But just as too much sugar is not good for our bodies, too much nice-nice is not good for our hearts or our emotional well-being. Nor is being mean all the time. The better way? Saying what …

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How Confusion Improves Your Emotional Intelligence.

Two Thoughts To Use Confusion To Improve Your Emotional Intelligence First thought: The hypnotists use a confusion technique to put you under their spell. Milton Erickson, a great hypnotist and therapist, noted that few things get our attention easier than confusion. How? Confusion is generally dangerous and we all want to be safe. So when someone …

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THINKING HARDER AND DEEPER – SESSION FOURTEEN

The first three Emotional FItness Skills take you on  the path to the fourth skill. That one? Thinking before acting. Not as easy as you think. WHY THINKING IS SO HARD TO DO: The Freudians and the Behaviorist are two of the best known schools  trying to figure out why people behave the way they do. …

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Parenting

A CHILD KEEPING A PARENT SAFE Don’t abuse, don’t feel you have to be perfect.  In line with yesterday’s parenting posts about how to deal with contradictory advice–remember how strong children are.  Watch this video. Stay Calm, Dad – Video. One reason children as young as this can stay so calm is that they don’t …

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