Flattery: Just Another Way to Lie

One of my father’s favorite sayings was “Flattery will get you no where.” Sometimes with a hint ot grin he would say, “Flattery will get you every where.” Both statements are true. One comment about the original definition of flattery noted that it started as a description of self-deception. You do lie to yourself when …

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QUALITY CONVERSATIONS MATTER MOST – FEEDBACK TIPS

To get the best from any conversation, try feedback. If you cannot  say what you mean and  say it nicely, stay silent. PARENTING TIP Teens delight in arguing. It marks their growing ability to think critically. Good except when the try to involve parents in a Gotcha War. Then, silence on the parent’s part is …

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ACCEPTANCE? GOOD; RADICAL ACCEPTANCE? PRICELESS

While many are seeking happiness, acceptances is known to be the best road to the good life. But accepting some things takes great effort. The poster coach says it all. But if you want more detail and help, I suggest you visit this link: Marsha Linehan’s work on Radical Acceptance.  Parenting tip The first step …

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KNOW YOUR STRENGTHS – FACE YOUR WEAKNESSES

Mental health professionals often ask people to list their strengths. Many could only list one or two. See how many you can check as one of yours. EMOTIONAL FITNESS TIPS Tip one: How to find your strengths. Complete the check list. Ask a friend you trust to check your strengths using the list Add strengths …

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