SEEKING CHANGE – SESSION TWENTY-ONE

Change comes slowly, particularly when you want another to change.  First step? Letting them know you want something to change.  Start with feedback. Feedback is  the best way to offer criticism; As pundit Franklin P. Jones notes:  “Honest criticism is hard to take, particularly from a relative, a friend, an acquaintance, or a stranger.” Feedback does …

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UNCERTAINTY PAINS

The more we know about what drives us,  the stronger our #emotionalintelligence. Uncertainty drives much behavior. Emotional Fitness Thoughts and Tips Guru and retired Harvard Researcher Jerome Kagan centered much of his research on how uncertainty twists our thinking, lets emotions rule, and is a major source of anger, fear, depression or despair. He points out that …

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POWER LEADING

The 10 Rules of Change | Psychology Today. Strong article, but written almost ten years ago.  Repeats much you have heard, and some  Cranky Old Lady quarrels with.    The following quote from the article started cranking me up.   As B.F. Skinner’s early research demonstrates, reinforcement-not punishment-is necessary for permanent change. Reinforcement can be intrinsic, extrinsic or …

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Parenting

SHAME IS USEFUL We must learn to live together as brothers and sisters or perish as fools. Martin Luther King,  American political activist The biblical story of Cain and Able illustrates  the difficulty of raising an Abel and not a Cain.  One popular  book preaches that one can have Siblings Without Rivalry.   Wishful thinking. …

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