False Expectations Appearing Real – Tips to Defang Fear

Fear is a signal to be cautious.We are programmed to avoid pain and fear signals the possibility pain will visit.  Some theorists think all behavior stems from pleasure, pain,  or fear of pain. Unmet expectations create pain.  Being more realistic about what we expect of life or others reduces both hurt and fear of hurt. …

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Depth Charged Thinking Gets To The Good Life

With all the broadcasting of terror we face every day, we need to think deeply, but only about what matters. Nature creates and destroys. Nature is embedded in our being, which is why the causes of today and every day violence are deep and tangled and keep violence rooted in human history. Pain or fear …

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Feast or Famine – Mostly Your Choice

You can be grateful and content with what you have or not content because you are focused on all the wrong things. EMOTIONAL FITNESS TRAINING TIPS When you can say “Thank you” for all what has been given and what has been  escaped, you are the master or mistress of gratitude. Here are the Emotional Fitness Training …

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What Makes Us Frail and How to Stay Strong

This poem about abuse makes clear how the bullies win. Today, they seem to be winning and we seem frail by comparison. This poster speaks to surviving, no matter how others beat you down, how frail you feel.   Emotional Fitness Training Tips Tip one:   When feeling frail, rest, do all the things you know …

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