How To Deal With Sexual Misconduct Using Your Emotional Intelligence – Six Tips

The Me Too Movement is stirring up lots of feelings. Very helpful, but feelings need to be guided by your Emotional Intelligence.  Hope these tips comfort all.  Emotional Fitness Training Tips Tip  one: Rate the offense: Rating scales keep things in perspective, no matter how offensive a grope or unwanted kiss, it is not a rape. …

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Transformation – Tips To Be the Best You Can Be

You live longer and have more strengths than the caterpillar. Not happy with who you are or where your life is going? You are the only one who can transform you. Emotional Fitness Tips Tip one: Get clear about what really matters. All the research agrees, what matters is feeling good about yourself and that …

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How To Keep Shame From Embarrassing You – Three Tips

Shame serves a useful purpose, but like many emotions all too often takes over when it is useless. When is shame useless?  Jerome Kagan, Harvard researcher, notes that shame is designed to keep us from doing the unthinkable. It develops when an older sibling gets strong enough to kill a meddling, annoying younger sibling. So …

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Know Your Inner Enemy

We all have a darker side, Most evil comes from desperation of one sort or another. Charles Brenner, MD and psychoanalyst, believes all dark behavior stems from pain or fear of pain. Sounds reasonable to me. However, things are never that simple. Complexity arises because each person hurts or fears hurt differently. We can understand …

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