Improve Your Emotional Intelligence: Say What You Must, But Don’t Say It Mean

No matter who you speak for, you will help more if you speak calmly and politely. That means not speaking in anger, but calming down. Calming Breaths help. How to take a Calming Breath: 1. Breathe in slowly to a count of five. It is helpful to tighten all your muscles beginning at your toes …

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Improve Your Emotional Intelligence: Decision Making

Uncertainty about most things opens the mind to alternatives. According the human development expert Jerome Kagan, uncertainty is as strong a motivator as hunger or sex. Too often it is turned into anger, despair, or fear.  Anger if we can find someone to blame. Despair if we blame ourselves. Fear if we cannot resolve it. …

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Doubt All Experts

Thinking we know all about something, thinking the experts know all closes our minds to other possibilities. Expert knowledge is limited knowledge. It should not rule our hearts. Jerome Kagan, Harvard’s top researcher into human behavior, points out that uncertainty also known as doubt drives who we are and how we think almost as much …

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UNCERTAINTY PAINS

The more we know about what drives us,  the stronger our #emotionalintelligence. Uncertainty drives much behavior. Emotional Fitness Thoughts and Tips Guru and retired Harvard Researcher Jerome Kagan centered much of his research on how uncertainty twists our thinking, lets emotions rule, and is a major source of anger, fear, depression or despair. He points out that …

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