Pointing you to an eBook mothers will resonate with, but all should read. Parenting is hard work, and mothers are still the primary caretakers.
Five short stories that transport you to often surprising aspects of motherhood.
A mother fights selfishly with her daughter’s lover, watching the curry stain on her lip quiver with rage … A woman returns to the lake where memories of her childhood create a vivid contrast to the present … A woman, alone aside from her cat, watches the shadows ripple across floorboards as labor contractions build … A totem tennis pole becomes the final stand for a housewife … A train trip provides a powerful opportunity for a different life.
EMotional fitness tips
A great many parents, particularly mothers have no idea what they are getting into until baby arrives. Each age and stage presents challenges and no mother or father does it right; 99.9% do it good-enough.
Tip one: Keep your expectations realistic.
Tip two: Remember all is change, what is hard now will be easy in time, but new hardships will arise as will new pleasures
Tip three: Build an Added Care Team.
Tip four: Build good memories – laugh and play with your kids as often as you can.
Tip five: Practice self-soothing. Here is an easy Emotional Fitness Exercise that builds calm.
Tip six: Plan me-time dates and keep them.
The need for two working parents, our work-holic life styles, the constant buy messages, combined with the mandate to be happy, erodes the joy of parenting. Resist those siren calls: Remember What Matters.
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Finally for all you do to support me and to bring kindness to our world, thank you.
If you are parenting a teen, take advantage of the free offer of my eBook When Good Kids Have Sex. You do not need a kindle to read it, you can use’s Amazon Kindle app to download it to your computer or cell phone.
The first and most important: Emotional Fitness Training is a self-help, knowledge sharing, coaching program. It is not therapy. Nor does it replace therapy when therapy is needed. If the exercises and support provided here do not help you gain control of negative feelings, is needed. Support groups, coaching, and therapy are other paths to emotional fitness.
Anyone with suicidal thoughts, thoughts of harming other people, or who engage in dangerous out-of-control behaviors needs professional help. Anyone with serious suicidal or homicidal plans need an immediate psychiatric evaluation. Call a suicide hot line if you are unsure of where or how to get help. Suicidal hotlines USA. Life can be better.
The second: I have dysgraphia, a learning disability that peppers my writing with mis-spelling and punctuation errors. All my books are professionally edited. Not so my blog post. Although I use all the grammar and spelling checks, mistakes slip by. If they bother you, seek another source of support for life’s less savory moments. Life is too short to let problems you can avoid irritate you.