Who we pick as our hero’s says a great deal.  Is yours Gandi, the Marine in this picture, your father, a teacher, someone else?

Abraham Lincoln heads my list among the giants up for hero awards.

He said, “I destroy my enemies by making them my friends.”

But he also knew some enemies could not be made into friends and given the chance will try to own all that is yours including your freedom.

Here one of my lessor known heroes–Robert Gambol.  Why? He served our country in Viet Nam; and then came home to hate.  He is my hero because despite being hated for fighting in a war many thought wrong, he has not  turned to hate.

When those around you are acting “holier than thou” and casting stones of hate at you, it takes true heroism to not hate back.  Here is a Bob’s post made on Facebook and gave me permission to copy:

The mid-sixties were turbulent times as many of you remember…war protesters, people desecrating the American Flag, draft-cards burned and of course, ‘flower children’. Everywhere. In 1966, life was about to change for my family and I when orders were received – for me to report to the First Marine Regiment, Vietnam. Following is a memory from that forsaken war:

The other day while dusting around my Winnebago, I glanced at the small American Flag standing in the corner of the dash. It reminded me of a time long ago when I came across an anonymous quote, scrawled on a piece of paper pinned to a makeshift bulletin board in the Regimental area.

The War was rapidly growing and Marines were being killed and/or injured daily. Words on this paper were just a small measure of love being expressed by someone in a ‘combat zone’.

This is what he had to say: “I look at our flag and see the stars, and I see you my love…you are my brightest star…and our days apart my field of blue.”  It was probably penned by a young Marine, to his ‘sweet heart’ back home, then posted for all to see. Hope he returned safely!

Bob Gambol…Semper Fi!

Thank you Robert for letting me publish this.

So are you a hero?  Not if you spew hatred, not if you don’t practice forgiveness, and not if  you are silent or don’t act when others are oppressed.

And yes, it is all complicated.  When are wars fought because the power people are greedy and the common folk duped?   All too often.

But when do people turn pacifist and isolationist because they fear violence or their sons are dying protecting other people’s freedom? All too often.


Tip one: Remember what matters. When some are oppressed all are in danger.

Tip two: Follow the money or power.

Tip three: Never think you  know another’s truth.

Tip four: Hold your truths lightly for they are mostly opinions. Question your deepest held beliefs; seek out those who hold different beliefs. All of us are biased.

Tip five:  Do not spew hatred of people.  Protest hateful behaviors, hateful cultures, hateful religions, but not the people who fall prey to the lure of such behaviors, cultures, or religions.

Tip six: Speak out against ALL violent behaviors.

Tip seven: Know how to fight, when fighting is necessary.

Tip eight:P ractice forgiveness of self and others.

Tip nine: Let whatever higher power rules over all, decide who is saved and who is damned.

Tip ten: Practice my 12 Daily Emotional Fitness Exercise.  Easy to do and strengthening.


Like this post if you do, comment (negative comments as welcome as positive one),  share.   You will be helping me stay strong and maybe some others as well.

Good luck, life is a struggle,  caring relationships matter must but are difficult as well as wonderful. Despite all life a feast.



Sometimes my posts are a bit peppered with mis-spellings, oddly used words, weird punctuation.  These stem from a lesser known learning disability called dysgraphia, but also from rushing.  My apologies. Don’t read or check back in a day or so, as I usually catch most of the errors when I re-read.  Also practice forgiveness is a useful Emotional Fitness Exercise, so forgive me, I do the best I can, we all do.  Sometimes the best is not good enough, but remains the best the person can do.  That is when forgiveness matters.


  1. my heroes are those men and women who took part in the ‘paraolympics ..people who have lost limbs or are not 100% normal have the pluck and energy to run , jump and swim..These are indeed heroes who did not say ‘I cannot do that’ but who said ‘I can and I will’ and they did…True heroes every one

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