Emotionally strong people think logically. Improve your Emotional Fitness what others call Emotional Intelligence by being aware of the most commonly used illogical arguments. Ad hominem is one of the more common fallacies.
As Wikipedia notes Ad hominem is when “an argument is rebutted by attacking the character, motive, or other attribute of the person making the argument, or persons associated with the argument, rather than attacking the substance of the argument itself.”
Emotional Fitness Exercise
As you talk, read, or write in a discussion with another who does not agree with you, look for when either of you uses an Ad hominem argument. Here are some to think about:
- Advertisements using celebrities to tout products.
- “All democrats are unintelligent, irrational dreamers.”
- “I’ve long maintained that Donald Trump has no concept of The Truth. It’s just whatever is in his head at the moment…”
- “Really, what a crazy people, that they actually believe this horse doody.”
- “A stupid argument.” (Ad hominem by innuendo.)
Eliminating your tendency to use an Ad hominem argument will not be easy. But being more aware will start the process.
Emotional Fitness Training Tips
Tip one: When you find yourself wanting to call names or labeling and argument with a nasty name, stay silent.
Tip two: Label the argument as Ad hominem and then fall silent.
Tip three: Say “And?” when the person finally stops ranting.
Tip four: Depute the following words always, never, and all. This can be done by just saying the indicated word as a question.
Tip five: Ask a question that seeks facts.
- How does that celebrity qualify as an expert on this subject?
- Do you have an IQ readout on all Democrats?
- So when Trump is speaking off the top of his head, does he sometimes speak the truth?
- How do you define crazy?
- “What is your definition of stupid?
As noted, not easy, but will make you and others think a bit more logically.
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Links of Interest
These links are for those not familiar with Emotional Intelligence or the idea of Emotional Fitness.
- Emotional Intelligence (en.wikipedia.org)
- The five components of emotional Intelligence (www.sonoma.edu)
- About Emotional Fitness Training (emotionalfitnesstraining.com)
- An Emotional Fitness Program for Parents (amazon.com)
Disclaimer two: Take all advice even mine, carefully. Don’t just listen to your heart, but also think; don’t just think, listen to your heart. Heart and head working together increase the odds you will find useful advice amid all the promises and hopes pushed at you be others. As others have noted, take what seems useful, leave the rest.
Disclaimer three: Forgive my grammatical errors
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