These are things I was taught way back when in Media High School. long before Civic’s Classes were eliminated. As much a travesty as eliminating Art and Music.
The heart of Emotional Fitness Training is to act wisely on negative feelings. Doing any of the above is acting wisely. Ongoing hand wringing, condemnation of the opposition, and talking or acting violently are not wise tools for bringing about political change.
Emotional Fitness Exercise
Actually, if angst, fear, or sorrow continue to be your main response to recent political events, the second step in the Poster Coach needs to be your first step. Acting wisely, is not possible in the midst of angst and other strong feelings.
EFT’s One Minute Meditation (The OMM) is the gateway to calmness. Here is a brief recap:
- Breathe in slowly to a count of five.
- Hold your breath for a count of five.
- Breathe out slowly to another count of five.
- Breathe normally and simply observe how it feels to breathe in and out.
- If thoughts make their presence known, observe them and continue breathing; the same with feelings.
- At the end of a minute, sooner if you want, take a deep breath in, hold it for a count of five.
- As you breathe out, say a silent “Ahhhhhh” or “Thank you” and smile softly.
- To strengthen its effect as a calming tool, after the first breath, add a two or three word calming mantra as you continue breathe in and out. “Life goes on” works for some, “Staying strong” for others/ Crafting your own often works best.
The OMM needs mega amounts of practice to become useful in moments of acute stress. That was the thought behind its creation.
One of the ironies of teaching it as part of my many trainings and workshops was that people later complained that it wasn’t helpful when they needed it.
I asked those who complained, “How much did you practice it daily?”
Their replies, silence. blushing, or an honest, “Not much.”
So if just learning it practiced lots when calm, then bring it out against small stresses, keep practicing and in time it will help calm mega angst.
Thank you for all you do
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Post Inspiration: This post was not inspired by the WordPress Daily Prompt: Culture, but resonates with it as our political beliefs are partly cultural.
Links of Interest
These links are for those not familiar with Emotional Intelligence or the idea of Emotional Fitness.
- Emotional Intelligence (en.wikipedia.org)
- The five components of emotional Intelligence (www.sonoma.edu)
- About Emotional Fitness Training (emotionalfitnesstraining.com)
- An Emotional Fitness Program for Parents (amazon.com)
Disclaimer two: Take all advice even mine, carefully. Don’t just listen to your heart, but also think; don’t just think, listen to your heart. Heart and head working together increase the odds you will find useful advice amid all the promises and hopes pushed at you be others. As others have noted, take what seems useful, leave the rest.
Disclaimer three: Forgive my grammatical errors
If you need perfect posts, you will not find them here; I will understand if you don’t follow, like or share what like me. Not only am I dealing with an aging brain, but all of my life I have been plagued by dysgraphia–a learning disability, Some of my posts might be peppered with bad spelling, poor punctuation, and worse words that make no sense. If you want to hang in with me, thank you; you are kind. If a post doesn’t make sense or bugs you too much, stop reading, I will understand.