A better question? How much does it hurt? Why a better question? Several reasons:
- If you can stop to think about how much, you are distancing a bit from the pain.
- The more you can distance from the pain, the less the pain controls you.
- The more you can talk, the less serious the pain.
- Helps those around you know what is needed. A child able only to cry in pain, needs comforting; an adult not able to talk probably needs 911 called, providing it is not a case of just having the breath knocked out for a few minutes.
Some falls are deadly. Any fall that causes bleeding is deadly for me as I am on blood thinners and could bleed-out quickly. Fortunately, I have had in the many years I have been on blood thinners, only one fall required quick transport to an emergence room.
Falls that break bones when accompanied by paralysis need 911.
Falls that break bones in arms or legs need medical treatment and often that means 911.
Falls that cause temporary loss of consciousness need medical treatment, but not necessarily 911.
Most falls cause emotional angst which generally mean castigating yourself for being clumsy. The following tips are useful when it comes to stopping the self talk attached to emotional pain.
Emotional Fitness Tips
Tip one: Get in the habit of rating pain. . Most likely these days, when you go to a doctor to complain about pain, you are asked to rate pain on a scale of one to ten. That scale is for physical pain.
The general Feeling Thermometer in the side bar measures emotional pain you feel at the moment. If the pain is only momentary, it is best handled by doing one of the Daily Twelve Easy Emotional Fitness Exercises. Be Grateful, Practice Kindness, or Be With Beauty work well in keeping you moving away from emotional pain.
When emotional pain permeates your life or keeps you from doing what you need to do to get move ahead, it needs medical treatment.
Tip two: Develop a slogan to block out useless self talk. It should be short and positive. “Life goes on” and “This will pass” are ones many use. Many people develop their own. I have four or five that get me moving forward. “Lesson learned” helps me most after a clumsy moment leads to a fall. “Taking care” is another one is situations where a fall is more likely,.
Slogans work best when you take a Calming Breath, repeat the slogan several times and then take another Calming Breath.
Tip three: Always remember what matters. Do not make too much of the small hurts of life that includes our moments of clumsiness.
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Post Inspiration: This post was inspired by a WordPress Daily Prompt: Clumsy.
Links of Interest
These links are for those not familiar with Emotional Intelligence or the idea of Emotional Fitness.
- Emotional Intelligence (en.wikipedia.org)
- The five components of emotional Intelligence (www.sonoma.edu)
- About Emotional Fitness Training (emotionalfitnesstraining.com)
- An Emotional Fitness Program for Parents (amazon.com)
Even the most learned researchers and therapists quarrel about much. Take their advice and mine carefully. Don’t just listen to your heart, but also think; don’t just think, listen to your heart. Heart and head working together increase the odds you will find useful advice amid all the promises and hopes pushed at you be others. As others have noted, take what seems useful, leave the rest.
Disclaimer two: Forgive my grammatical errors
If you need perfect posts, you will not find them here; I will understand if you don’t follow, like or share what like me. Not only am I dealing with an aging brain, but all of my life I have been plagued by dysgraphia–a learning disability, Some of my posts might be peppered with bad spelling, poor punctuation, and worse words that make no sense. If you want to hang in with me, thank you; you are kind. If a post doesn’t make sense or bugs you too much, stop reading, I will understand.