You are the one most in control.
And yes, sometimes you aren’t able to control your thoughts, feelings, or actions. Work hardest on controlling actions. When you regret how you acted is proof you acted without thought.
And yes, parents tried to teach you that. Not all parental advice is good, but that one was and still is. The first step remains strengthening your self-soothing skills including your self-talk.
When I feel the push to act quickly, I sing this from an old song: “Slow down you move too fast, got to make the good times last.”
Thank you for all you do.
P.S. Practice kindness by reading, liking, commenting or sharing this post. Think about buying one of my eBooks. They cost less than a latte, last longer, and are healthier. Go to Katherine Gordy Levine’s Author Page in other to see what is available.
P.S.S. These links are for those not familiar with Emotional Intelligence or the idea of Emotional Fitness.
- Emotional Intelligence (en.wikipedia.org)https://www.amazon.com.au/When-Good-Kids-Gotcha-Things/dp/0987461400/ref=tmm_pap_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=&sr=
- The five components of Emotional Intelligence (www.sonoma.edu)
- About Emotional Fitness Training (emotionalfitnesstraining.com)