What’s your feeling temperature right now? Most of today? The past week or so?  See if a negative feeling is getting to you. Take your feeling temperature.

Are your feelings  cold, warm, hot?

Take a quick feeling temperature now.

Right now I am at a seven. Not good.  The day has hovered between six and seven with some spikes into eight and some four or below moments.  Same for the week.  Usually, I am at a five with a few spikes to seven and many drops to four of below.  I might have a loss of cool once a month.  By that I mean I do something I regret.

Why the relatively high level of stress?  some problems of aging – not serious but annoying, the combination of my 76th Birthday Book Launch Party and Passover, increasing demands of social media.


Notice the feeling thermometer is  like a traffic light: green says okay, yellow says be careful, and red says stop. Hot feelings like to sneak up on you and take control. Taking your  feeling thermometer regularly reminds  keep you alert to the possibly a hot feeling is visiting.  

Stress and anger are best controlled when they first visit.  You take a feeling thermometer to  start self-soothing exercises at the five or six level works best. Almost everyone has some skills they use to stay cool and calm.  However, we can all probably do a bit better.  I know I can, and I work at it constantly.

For a variety of Self-soothing Skills to create calm in you life, consider buying my newest e-Book. The book details 22 self-soothing exercises, some you use, others will be new to you.  Added value:  The book costs less than a Starbuck’s fancy latte.  Moreover, it lasts longer.


Self-Soothing, Create Calm in Your Life


As noted above one of my current stressors has been planning my Birthday Party and Book Launch.  Fun.  A plus is I have gained more followers and more social activity demands.  As I noted in a recent post I cannot keep up.  So for my sake I am cutting back here and there.  But I am also starting a Newsletter.   

I hope the Newsletter will also lift a bit of stress from your life.  My hope is it will keep us connected.  Moreover, I know for some my email, posts, tweets,  and other social meeting stuff can be overwhelming. You can subscribe to my Newsletter and cut the need to read all I send you.

The Newsletter will contain links to the best of my blogs, announcements about my books, poster coaches, give-aways, and tips for staying strong.  You can subscribe here.



Life is full of feelings, good, bad, and in-between ones. Taking a regular feeling thermometer is a good reminder that bad comes and goes, as does good. Waiting out the bad and savoring the good helps all stay strong.

As usual for all you do to support me, thank you.



The first and most important: Emotional Fitness Training is a self-help and coaching program. It is not therapy. Nor does it replace therapy when therapy is needed. If the exercises and support provided here do not help you gain control of negative feelings, more may be needed. Support groups, coaching, and therapy are other paths to emotional fitness.

Anyone with suicidal thoughts, thoughts of harming other people, or who enage in harmfur or dangerous out-of-control behaviors needs to get professional help. Anyone with serious suicidal or homicidal plans need an immediate psychiatric evaluation.  Call a suicide hot line if you are unsure of where or how to get help. Suicidal hotlines USA.  Lfe can be better.

The second: I have dysgraphia, a learning disability that peppers my writing with mis-spelling and punctuation errors. All my books are professionally edited. Not so my blog post. Although I use all the grammar and spelling checks, mistakes slip by. If they bother you, seek another source of support for life’s less savory moments.   Life is to short to let problems you can avoid irate you.


Agree or disagree, comments are always welcomed.