Broken your resolutions yet?  I have and this post confesses all.  My goal, I set goals instead of resolutions, for my blog was to keep posting every day as Cranky Old Lady, but staying on daily topics as set during the 2011 Daily Post Challenge.  That meant a Monday post about the Downhill Slope,  A free E-book on Tuesdays, Shrink Think on Wednesday, Powerleading on Thursday and Inspiration on Friday.  Plus a Be With Beauty Post every week day.  Also promised a Staying Strong Tip on all posts.

Here we are a day five and I did what I said I would do, but yesterday it took all day.  Granted that means all day while caring for my two grandsons during the day.  Not cranking about that, caring for them really does lower my crank temperature. Sadly, not only did my evening get spent working on Post 4, but when I finally sent it out at the last minute I was not happy with it. too tired and cranky to do anything but hide in my bed.

Minimally, evenings should be fully devoted  to working on priority number one–finishing and E-publishing my novel by March 21st which is my 75th birthday.  Thank you for wishing health and brain hold out.  And if you didn’t, Cranky Lady says please do so now. Not going to meet that goal if I don’t re-set my priorities.

So here we go: New Goals: Be With Beauty Post every day but Shabbat, unless I finally get scheduling posts figured out. A re-blog or quick link or Thinking About What Matters quote, maybe with comments, maybe not; maybe on the above topics, maybe not.  Again,  not on Shabbat unless I get the scheduling thing working. Finally Staying Strong Tips but probably not on every post.  But here is one for today’s post.

STAYING STRONG TIP When a goal is not met, the wrong goal was set.  This Cranky Old Lady  coined that phrase and try to follow it. It is, if I say so myself and I do, worth thinking about.  It is an important slogan  for parents, teachers, coaches, big bosses, and supervisors.

Equally important is figuring out why the goal can’t be met.  I can’t meet the goals I set because there is just not enough time to do it all.  Crank: don’t believe those who say you can have it all.  Real life takes a lot of luck to have it all particularly when the wrong goals have been set.  Quick list of things to think about if not you or another are not meeting goals:

  1.  Person cannot do what is asked.  You can’t ask a new born to read. Well, you can ask, but the answer will always be know.  As a parent you need to know age and stage expectations AND know those are just averages.  As a teacher or boss you need to know chronological age and level of thought.  Too much to go into in great detail, but half of the world are not critical thinkers.
  2. If you think everyone you meet is stupid, think again–it may mean they are average thinkers and you are a critical or abstract thinker.
  3. The person may be capable of the job asked, but does not have the required skill set.
  4. The person may not have the resources.  One of the resources Cranky Old Lady needed  to write was a good work processing program.  Until she found one, she ouldn’t hope to be a published author and she is.
  5. The person may have to deal with too many competing needs.  Family tops Cranky Old Lady’s priority list and eats up much time.  Even if the Grands aren’t here,  Cranky Old Man needs to be kept reasonably uncranked and that means minimally feeding him two or three times a day, helping him find lost keys, lost reading glasses, and lost cell phone.
  6.  Hidden agendas or  goals subvert your goals.  If you follow Nanny 911 she writes out the rules and everyone agrees.  Then what happens is a major challenge by the person more invested in power or getting their own way.  Bosses often have hidden agenda’s.  One boss I worked with had has his agenda surrounding himself with a group of  boss worshipping young ladies.  Guess what that did those that were older, fatter, not willing to flatter. That means, in case you hadn’t guessed Cranky Old Lady. By the way, her hidden or not so hidden  agenda is questioning rules, motives, and authority.
  7. Strong emotions including envy, jealousy, resentment, fear, anger may erode capacity to do what needs doing.

Instead of thinking stupid or incompetent or lazy or unmotivated, all useless labels, think “Hasn’t been taught, hasn’t understood, too stressed to understand, needs more support, has a different agenda.

My not so hidden agenda is to be liked by Facebook Friends and fellow bloggers–even when Cranky.  You can help with that my liking my posts or if you don’t like commenting and telling me what your don’t like.  I might agree.

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