Most of us try to go it alone rather than asking for help. I know I do, but no one gets through life without a little bit of help from lots of people.
You already have An Added Care Team. Everyone has one. You don’t make it through life without. This post suggests you take control of your team by consciously creating one. How? Set aside a half and hour and follow these steps.
Step One: Identify those in your Circles of Care. The circles consist of three circles
- The first or inner circle is for extended family members and friends that can be counted on to be there with support and concrete help. Not all family members belong here, but the ones will come and get your if you get stranded some where, who will pick up your kids if you can’t, or the ones who will lend you money to get you out of a jam.
- The second circle is for those that have are not family or close friends, but the relationships are still seen as people who care and can offer support.—neighbors, church friends, and other everyday acquaintances. These can almost always be counted on to make you feel better. These are the people you can laugh and play with; whose shoulders you can cry on. Some will offer occasional concrete help, but will not or cannot do it with the constancy of the people on your first circle.
- The third circle is for those people involved because of an official role. Co-workers, teachers, coaches, doctors, lawyers, Indian chiefs who go above and beyond their official duties to help you.
- Those on the outside of the final circle are your enemies, disinterested by-standers and professional service providers who don’t help and often make you feel picked on. This include people from the family, the neighborhood, as well as bosses, teachers, and official service providers.
Step Two: Create an Added Care Team List including contact information. Order the list any way you want, but the most helpful seems to be by categories, starting with the Inner Circle.
Some also find it useful to list the ways each person can help.
Step Three: Keep the list where you can find it easily.
Emotional fitness Training tips
Tip one: Cherish those on your Added Care Team. Be careful to keep the scales balanced and to be there for them as often as you expect them to be there for you.
Tip two: When dealing with those not on your team, remember your manners. These are already not in your corner, and can quickly become enemies.
Tip three: With large problems – a court hearing, a major medical decisions, or a child in trouble consider asking one or more of your team to meet together so you can plan a strategy.
Tip four: With large problems also think about taking one of you Added Team Members to accompany you as an adovocate to any meetings dealing with the problem.
Make your children know who they can call on from your inner circle if you are not easily reached. Be up front with the person that you are giving you children their contact information to use in case of an emergency and their names will also be included in the child’s emergency contact information.
Kindness improves emotional fitness and the ability to withstand life’s bad times. You can practice kindness right now by liking, commenting, or sharing this post.
Thank you and work at staying strong until next time. I work on doing that all the time.
P.S. This post was somewhat inspired by this WordPress Daily Prompt
Companionable: Head to one of your favorite blogs. Write a companion piece to their penultimate post.
The word companionable lead me to caring, lead me to Add Care Team.
LINKS OF INTEREST
These links are for those not familiar with Emotional Intelligence or the idea of Emotional Fitness.