HOW DO YOU REACT TO THE UNEXPECTED? Topic 285:Do you like surprises? Why or why not? Can you think of the best or worse surprise you’ve had in the last year?
I only want pleasant surprises. No one in their right mind, wants unpleasant surprises.
One of my personal motto’s comes from the book The Microbe Hunters by Paul De Kruif: “Blessed are they who expect nothing for they shall not be disappointed.” I know longer am certain when I read the book or adopted the motto, think it was when my heart was broken a second time. The motto was my effort to protect myself from future hurts. Did it work? Sometimes, sometimes not.
My human development Guru Jerome Kagan, believes the want to create a world with only moderate amounts of the unexpected. He says from the time we are infants we get quickly bored with the usual, but just as quickly frightened by anything too out of the ordinary. We are programmed to like small pleasant surprises but not unpleasant ones and not ones that take us too far from our understanding of what is.
When confronted with something too contradictory to what we already know, we cling to what we know even to the extent of becoming delusional, meaning we believe something most people in the world do not believe. Norman Festinger’s Failed Prophesy details how difficult it is for some to give up deeply held beliefs. Some take another path, these convert to the new knowledge and cast away all that was believed before. Many who endured the Holocaust turned away from faith in G-d. Most go somewhere between the two. I know I do.
As I head down the slope toward the end of my life, I wish with all my heart, I knew what to expect. A large part of me believes this life is all we have. Will I be happy to be surprized to find out otherwise? Only if what goes on is a better love and justice than can be found here.
To answer the second part of the challenge. The happiest surprise? An ongoing happiness about the life I am living now. The worse? A gall stone. I wish that pain on no one.
As my mother said, “That’s my story, Morning Glory.”
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