DELUSIONS OF PERFECTION HOLDING YOU BACK?

What would you undertake if you know you would not fail?  More importantly how do you define failure? As perfection? Not good.

I was perfect, then I was born

Thank you doyletics.com  for this one.

Know when perfectionism has taken over.  Most often that happens to those with a diagnosis of OCD.  Here is a check list that says perfectionism is in charge.

OCD checklist

Emotional Fitness Training tip one: If this is you, do not let stigma keep your from getting professional help. Part of trying to be perfect means not thinking you need help, particularly professional help. Not helpful.

Emotional Fitness Training tip two: If you seek professional help, make sure you seek competent help. Not so easy.  For OCD you want someone who uses a cognitive behavior approach. You also want someone who is comfortable with medication and either can prescribe or is affiliated with someone who can.

Emotional Fitness Training tip three:  When dealing with any therapist, look for someone who has a feedback mechanism in place.

The best feedback at the moment comes for the International Center for Clinical Excellence.  Not many therapists use this group, however.  Another way to measure progress is to develop a SMART Goal for what you want from therapy and insist  the therapist will use that as a feedback mechanism.

PARENTING TIPS

Parenting tip one: Adopt the attitude that mistakes aid learning.

Parenting tip two: As there seems to be a strong genetic basis for perfectionism including OCD, if you are a perfectionist, your child might easily struggle with OCD.  At the same time, most children show some of the above signs.  The trick is always to decide how much perfectionism’s rules.

Parenting tip three: With a teen have him or her complete the above check list.  then discussion how the media seeks perfectionism.

 Parenting tip four: Use the media to discuss perfectionism’s down side. Making people feel less than perfect increases sales of many products.

Visit this  Parents Are People Blog Post for more tips.

IMPROVE YOUR CRITICAL THINKING

DAILY PROMPT – Too Big To Fail: Tell us about something you would attempt if you were guaranteed not to fail (and tell us why you haven’t tried it yet).

Need I say more than I have already said.

LINKS OF INTEREST

FREE POSTER COACHES 

Don’t think you can afford a life coach? Like a life coach, EFTI’s poster coaches inspire, teach, motivate, and reinforce thinking about what matters.  To use, print up in color and post there it will be seen often.  Poster Coaches can also be used at  Family Meetings to start a discussion about what matters.

THANK YOU FOR ALL YOU DO

Keep working to stay strong, I work hard to do the same . As noted above,  I am not perfect, no one is so see mistakes as an opportunity for learning.

Remember’s sharing is caring and the easiest way to practice kindness is to share this post if you found it helpful.  Thank you.

Katherine

Agree or disagree, comments are always welcomed.