The Dali Lama and I are both advocates of Emotional Fitness. We diverge only on one point. He has a website called Educate Your Heart; its mission is to reform the educational system so that social and emotional fitness matter as much as reading, writing, and arithmetic. Here is a lovely video calling for those reforms

Lovely isn’t it? Please visit the webpage and learn more and think of donating.


Where do I diverge? Buddhism calls for radical pacifism. I have several Buddhists friends who will not swat mosquitoes   Not so much a problem where malaria is not a problem, life threatening in other areas – think of China’s takeover of the pacifically oriented Tibetans.

I think pacifism ends when life and limb are seriously threatened by another.  So in addition to calling for schools to teach social and emotional fitness, I call for teaching a peace-based karate.


Tip one: One of the good things about emotional fitness or educating your heart  is that it can start at any age. If you have not already visited my Be With Beauty Page, do so now.  It explains more about emotional fitness and then shows you how to practice one of the Twelve Daily Easy Emotional Fitness Exercises.

Tip two: This is an exercise that helps me keep all bad feelings under control, but is particularly useful when it comes to anger. I call it Soft Face.

Start by making angry face. Remember the last time you got enraged. tighten your jaw, pull your lips down in a frown, clench your teeth, narrow your eyes,  pull your eyebrows together,  and wrinkle your forehead.  Notice how all that feels.

Now take a calming breath and as you are breathing out, relax your jaw, let your lips play at smiling, un-clench your teeth, widen your eyes, spread out your eyebrows, and un-wrinkle your forehead.  That is soft face. Notice how it feels.

Practice the two faces until you can easily turn tense of angry face into soft face. Once you can do that at will, you will find taming anger and other bad feelings much easier.


The stresses of modern-day life are never-ending. Stress diminishes your physical health.  The more you educate your heart and improve your emotional fitness the better for your health and the more likely you will enjoy the good things life has to offer.

Good news: My eBook Easy Emotional Fitness Exercises to Tame Mad, Bad, and Sad Feelings will be free next weekend.  It is one of a series of books designed to educate your heart as the Dali Lama says. 

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For all you do to support me and to bring kindness to our world, thank you. You help me Stay Strong.



The first and most important: Emotional Fitness Training is a self-help, knowledge sharing, coaching program. It is not therapy. Nor does it replace therapy when therapy is needed. If the exercises and support provided here do not help you gain control of negative feelings, is needed. Support groups, coaching, and therapy are other paths to emotional fitness.

Anyone with suicidal thoughts, thoughts of harming other people, or who engage in dangerous out-of-control behaviors needs professional help. Anyone with serious suicidal or homicidal plans need an immediate psychiatric evaluation.  Call a suicide hot line if you are unsure of where or how to get help. Suicidal hotlines USA.  Life can be better.

The second: I have dysgraphia, a learning disability that peppers my writing with mis-spelling and punctuation errors. All my books are professionally edited. Not so my blog post. Although I use all the grammar and spelling checks, mistakes slip by. If they bother you, seek another source of support for life’s less savory moments.   Life is too short to let problems you can avoid irritate you.


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