Yes/and Beats Either/or Tips


When you find yourself thinking you don’t have a choice, you are probably locked into either/or thinking. Either-or thinking is a logical reasoning error. This error assumes people can only choose between two things: living or dying, winning or losing, failing or succeeding. Most things in life are much more complicated.

Emotional Fitness Tips

 Tip one: Try adding Yes/and it to all Either/or statements:

  • Its Hillary or Trump. Yes. And?
  • Its live or die. Yes. And?
  • Its Republican or Democrat. Yes. And?

Tip two: When you find yourself limited to an Either/or position, make a list of all other options. 26 candidates ran for president, though many were not on most state ballots or any ballot.

Tip three: “What if” is also a good response? What if its Trump? What if its Hillary?

Minimally, you will get some interesting answers.

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Post Inspiration: This post was inspired  by the WordPress Daily  Prompt: Or

Go here to learn more about the Daily Prompts.

Links of Interest

These links are for those not familiar with Emotional Intelligence or the idea of Emotional Fitness.

Disclaimer two: Take all advice even mine, carefully.  Don’t just listen to your heart, but also think; don’t just think, listen to your heart.  Heart and head working together increase the odds you will find useful advice amid all the promises and hopes pushed at you be others.  As others have noted, take what seems useful, leave the rest.

Disclaimer two: Forgive my grammatical errors

If  you need perfect posts, you will not find them  here;  I will understand if you don’t follow, like or share what  like me.  Not only am I dealing with an aging brain, but all of my life I have been plagued by dysgraphia–a learning disability,  Some of my posts might be peppered with bad spelling, poor punctuation, and worse words that make no sense.  If  you want to hang in with me, thank you; you are kind. If a post doesn’t make sense or bugs you too much, stop reading, I will understand.


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