Aging is for heroes and heroines, as I am learning. There used to be a psychiatric diagnosis called “Reactive Depression.” It meant something bad had happened that pulled you down. Aging can do that at least when loneliness, loss, or pain erode your well-being.
But life throws stones at everyone, so when you are down, you need to pull yourself up, and if you cannot do that, you need help from family, friends, or professionals.
Emotional Fitness Tips
Tip one: Face this Brute Fact – Life showers you with flowers, lemons, and rocks. Enjoy the flowers, make lemonadeade from the lemons, and get professional help when the rocks seriously bruise, cut deep, or break bones.
Tip two: Remember what matters. What matters is not what you own, but who you are at heart. All the sages know that the happiest people are those who live live’s of service. Practice kindness all the ways you can.
Tip three: Let others practice kindness by getting their help when you need it. Asking for help is too often seen as a weakness, but it is quite the opposite. This is particularly true when it comes to seeking help from a mental health professional. If you are struggling, call the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline ‘1-800-273-TALK (8255). They will help you think about the need for mental help services whether you are suicidal or not. Why they are call Suicide Prevention.
Tip four: When you seek help, look for a professional who uses some form of on-going evaluation process. Here is a form I developed for all staff and clients when I ran mental health crisis teams in NYCity before during and after 9/11. My form is a variation of The Center For Clinical Excellence‘ evaluation forms. As I also wanted clients to have an account of what happened during my team’s work with them, the evaluation material was included in a Progress Note. Clients got a carbon copy of the note, the original was filed in the client’s medical chart.
Tip five: Set a SMART Goal for what you want from any service providers. Here is an EFT blog post about SMART Goals.
Tip six: Strengthen your self-soothing skills. For a quick introduction check out these Emotional Fitness Exercises. For a longer last lesson, buy EFT’s Self-soothing To Create Calm in Your Life. It still costs less than a Latte.
Thank you for all you do
Remember to share all you find of value on the internet. All who post crave recognition. A like says “Thank You.” Comments say you have read and thought about the post. Sharing is a gift to three people: the blogger, the people you share with, and you for your kindness blesses you.
Post Inspiration: This post was relates to this WordPress Daily Prompt: Seriousness.
Links of Interest
These links are for those not familiar with Emotional Intelligence or the idea of Emotional Fitness.
- Emotional Intelligence (en.wikipedia.org)
- The five components of emotional Intelligence (www.sonoma.edu)
- About Emotional Fitness Training (emotionalfitnesstraining.com)
Even the most learned researchers and therapists quarrel about much. Take their advice and mine carefully. Don’t just listen to your heart, but also think; don’t just think, listen to your heart. Heart and head working together increase the odds you will find useful advice amid all the promises and hopes pushed at you be others. As others have noted, take what seems useful, leave the rest.
Disclaimer two: Forgive my grammatical errors
If you need perfect posts, you will not find them here; I will understand if you don’t follow, like or share what like me. Not only am I dealing with an aging brain, but all of my life I have been plagued by dysgraphia–a learning disability, Some of my posts might be peppered with bad spelling, poor punctuation, and worse words that make no sense. If you want to hang in with me, thank you; you are kind. If a post doesn’t make sense or bugs you too much, stop reading, I will understand.