This is a “Take A Break Blog Post.” Some things are finished, others still undone.  What remains undone calls  you to  forgive yourself.

FORGIVE / excuse / pardon. Brush your fingertips along the length of your base-hand palm twice.

FORGIVE / excuse / pardon. Brush your fingertips along the length of your base-hand palm twice. IMAGE OF: Bill Vicars at

Emotional Fitness Thoughts about unfinished to do lists

To do lists are useful tools.  Nice when you can cross off item after item  after item.  For far too many of us, however, more items are left, than crossed off; our lists are never-ending, never finished.  If your break is going to be a break, however, you need to let go of the unfinished business.  You cannot have me time or quiet time with unfinished chores hanging around your brain.  Moreover, most of us need to forgive ourselves for not finishing all that we had hoped to do.

emotional fitness tip about forgiving yourself

Automatic thoughts about what you should have done are the enemy. Craft some back talk when a “Should have” thought surfaces. Here are some examples:

“Did what I could.”
“Enough with the should.”
“Later gator.”
“Could have, would have, might tomorrow.
“Now matters now.”
“My time  has come.”

The trick is to find a phrase that works for you and to say it often.  Implanting automatic positive thoughts needs  hundred of repetitions. So make a little chant of your slogan and every time you get up from a chair for any reason, sing-song it to yourself at least five times.  Make it a rap and give it some rhythm. If you are alone, march to the rhythm. Make it fun.  Make it half a minute of fun me-time. 

Staying strong
Improving your overall ability to manage negative feelings  will also help you let your to do list sit quietly for a while.  Practicing the Daily Twelve Emotional Fitness Exercises  is an easy first step.  

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Even the most learned researchers and therapists quarrel about much.  Take their advice and mine carefully.  Don’t just listen to your heart, but also think; don’t just think, listen to your heart.  Heart and head working together increase the odds you will find useful advice amid all the promises and hopes pushed at you be others.  As others have noted, take what seems useful, leave the rest.


If  you need perfect posts, you will not find them  here;  I will understand if you don’t follow, like or share what  like me.  Not only am I dealing with an aging brain, but all of my life,  dysgraphia–a learning disability has eaten my energy and diminished my productivity.   Some of my posts might be peppered with bad spelling, poor punctuation, and worse words that make no sense.  If  you want to hang in with me, thank you; you are kind. If a post doesn’t make sense or bugs you too much, try reading it a few days later.  Often I catch the worse mistakes when I read the post after a few days.


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