Dr. K. Anders Ericsson carries the title of world’s leading authority on perfecting skills. Being With Beauty and Thinking About What Matters are skills designed specifically to strengthen your Emotional Intelligence.
Ericsson’s research lead him to two rules: “the ten-year rule” and “the 10,000-hour rule.” He believed it required at least ten years and/or 10,000 hours of practice to achieve perfection in any skill.
Good news: You will not need ten years or 10,000 hours of practice to start taming your mad, bad, or sad feelings. You want to be an emotional fitness star, not an athletic wonder. Emotional Fitness Training.
Proper Practice Matters Most
Full awareness is key to proper practice. According to Ericsson the amount of practice required is not as important as what he called deliberate practice. One of the things he meant by that was full awareness, what many call mindfulness. If you practice mindlessly and with little awareness, you might as well not practice.
How to achieving full awareness
Adding full awareness is not difficult, moreover, you are already halfway there whenever you take a deep breath to calm yourself. Instead of a deep breath, take a Calming Breath.
Here is how to take not just a deep breath, but a Calming Breath:
Breathe in slowly.
Hold your breath until some tension accumulates.
Breathe out slowly.
As you breathe out. Smile softly and say a silent “Thank you.”
To practice any Emotional Fitness Exercise with full awareness, take a Calming Breath, complete the exercise, and take another Calming Breath before going on with your life. EFT’s Poster Coach when printed up then posted here and there, remind you to take a minute to practice one of EFT’s Twelve Easy Exercises.
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Links of Interest
- Emotional Intelligence (en.wikipedia.org)
- The five components of Emotional Intelligence (www.sonoma.edu)
- An Emotional Fitness Program for Parents (amazon.com