George Carlin remarked, “…. the only time in our lives when we like to get old is when we’re kids?” #EmotionalIntelligence involves making the best of what is.
This post inspired by WordPress’ DAILY PROMPT Age-Old Questions “Age is just a number,” says the well-worn adage. But is it a number you care about, or one you tend (or try) to ignore?
I am pushing 80; it has taken years to get here. And although I would like the body, I had at 24, 34, 44 or even 64 I want that body only if I can keep all I have experienced and learned from then to now. Will not happen.
Don’t think I am anti-young. Never. I love the young, the younger the better. Love my grands, love the other kids in my life. .I love flirting with the young men checking me out on-line at the food stores. I like when I can make them laugh or blush with pleasure at the compliment I hurl at them. I am delighted some of the “kids” I knew during my sons growing up years, have friended me on Facebook. Even more delighted when one of them likes something I say or actually comments on one of my posts. The young give me hope, inspire, often make my day.
But, that said, I get the fear attached to aging. I understand the difficulties of those approaching whatever years means they have passed from youth to middle age or middle age to the new old or that age to old age and finally to frail old age.
I know when I look around while out and about, that I am old and moving toward frail old. Not happy, however, denying reality is not the hall-mark of emotional intelligence.
Nor is aging what bothers me most. What I hate most is becoming invisible. We humans thrive on the recognition of our kind. Explains why as we age and those who knew us when and knew us best fade from our lives, some of us become cat ladies or dog men. Sad, but the way life is in our youth oriented culture. I do see as the boomers continue to age, the veneration of youth is hitting a slightly better balance. Love that Jamie Lee Curtis is displaying all her wrinkles. Still the balance continues to venerate the young.
Have you noticed how many ads on television have the pre-schoolers lecturer parents and grand parents? Scarier are the one that show the kindergarten set driving their daddy’s car.
To be balanced we need the new visions of the young, but experienced wisdom of the old.
An Emotional Fitness Tip
What to do? This is what has worked for me and what is the heart of Emotional Fitness Training: Know your mission, follow your mission, and make certain it aligns with The Mission. Then live so that when old or frail old comes you can be proud of the path you have taken.
For those who do not follow blogs, The Mission is practicing kindness and to all. The sages have preached it for years and the researchers find those wise old ones knew what mattered most. Here is the EFTI poster coach setting forth the sages sense of mission.
Be thankful for all the years you have lived, for now, and for however more years are granted you. Now is not forever, and often all we have.
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