So sick of “Don’t worry, be happy.” “Just do it.” “If I can, you can.” Nonsense, life is not about happiness.
emotional fitness tHOUGHTS
Who doesn’t want to be happy? Remember this, however, the push to “Be Happy” is mainly an advertising ploy that works too well in our consumer society.
Laugh and Play is one of Emotional Fitness Training’s Daily Twelve Exercises. Remember What Matters is also one of the Daily Twelve and far more important one. As Davies suggests “plucking treasures” from unhappiness attunes more with the realities of life.
EMOTIONAL FITNESS EXERCISE
Experiment with being grateful all day today. Practicing gratitude is another of the Daily Twelve. Instead of pursuing happiness, spend today saying Thank You. Thank those who deserve thanking, but also thank those who pain and hurt.
Emily Dickinson says “The wounded deer jumps highest.” Pain provides better life lessons than happiness. Stub you toe? Thank your carelessness for reminding you to be more careful. Berated by someone else’s rudeness? Thank them for reminding you, you are kinder and more caring.
You do not have to thank the rude and obnoxious outloud. In fact, not responding at all is probably best. You can, however, thank them in your heart. Looking at them with raised eyebrows or a soft face – face calm, eyebrows smooth, mouth gently smiling as if looking at a much loved sleeping baby. Soft face soothes you and confuses angry or rude people.
Life is a struggle, full of hurt. Some hurt from acts of evil, some from the randomness of nature. Relationships also bring pain, but without caring connections life is bleak. Expecting happiness is unrealistic, as Alice Walker notes it is better to “live frugally on surprise.
Here is my thank you gift for those joining me for the first time. Click here to be taken to an introduction to the Daily Twelve Emotional Fitness Exercises.
Liking, commenting, sharing are acts of social media kindness and very easy to practice. So be kind to me and all your media friends. I promise you will be repaid.
THE USUAL PROMOTIONAL STUFF
DISCLAIMER ONE: EMOTIONAL FITNESS TRAINING IS NOT THERAPY.
Even the most learned researchers and therapists quarrel about much. Take their advice and mine carefully. Don’t just listen to your heart, but also think; don’t just think, listen to your heart. Heart and head working together increase the odds you will find useful advice amid all the promises and hopes pushed at you be others. As others have noted, take what seems useful, leave the rest.
DISCLAIMER TWO: FORGIVE MY GRAMMATICAL ERRORS
If you need perfect posts, you will not find them here; I will understand if you don’t follow, like or share what like me. Not only am I dealing with an aging brain, but all of my life I have been plagued by dysgraphia–a learning disability, Some of my posts might be peppered with bad spelling, poor punctuation, and worse words that make no sense. If you want to hang in with me, thank you; you are kind. If a post doesn’t make sense or bugs you too much, try reading it a few days later. Often I catch the worse mistakes when I read the post after a few days.