Hello Darkness My Old Friend – Tips For Finding the Light

Storm cloud picture and three quotes about darkness.

Darkness comes and storms invade. The blacker the storm, the longer  it pounds down, the harder to stay strong and keep going.

Emotional Fitness Training Tips

Tip one: Name the storm.  To name is to tame, but you need to find a name that  conveys the specific nature of the storm. Broken Heart. Crushing Illness, Fired, and Death Visits are samples of names people have given the storms of their life.

Tip two: Measure the devastation. Just as earthquakes and hurricanes are measured, so life storms need to be rated. Being fired at twenty is not teh same as being fired at 50. A broken heart is not the same as a from a broken spine; the death of a beloved pet is not the same as the death of your only child.

Tip three: Remember what you have survived and call on the strengths that got your through past storms. 

Tip four: Look for the lessons. There are always lessons.  Even when you see no lesson, that  is a lesson. That lesson? You do not control all that happens to you or those you care about. Life is built on randomness which means good and bad things sometimes just happen.

As noted in Lives of a Cell by Lewis Thomas without randomness human life would not exist. Life would have stayed the green sludge found in stagnant ponds.

Use that fact to let go of self-blame when bad things happen or good things don’t. You have many choices, but not about all that happens.

Tip five: Do all the things your mother, best friend, and the doctors suggest doing to stay strong. Most of them are included in my Twelve Daily Emotional Fitness Exercises.  and that eBook costs less than a Starbucks Latte.

Tip six: Pick up the threads of your every day life as soon as you can. When hit by a major life storm, all normalcy gets blown away. You need to create a new normal. At the same time that begins with what was.

Start with what comforts you and work forward from there. One sign you are recovering is the ability to enjoy previous pleasures.

Thank You for All You Do

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This post was inspired by the Word Press  Daily Post Prompt  Darkness

I use the Daily Prompts not just to spark my blog ideas, but to improve my critical thinking skills.

Not sure  how to use a Daily Post Prompt as a writer?  Here are the steps to get started. Then improve your thinking skills by seeing where the prompt has  taken others and how other thoughts fuel  your thoughts. Whether you write or not your thinking skills are improved by reading other people’s thoughts.



These links are for those not familiar with Emotional Intelligence or the idea of Emotional Fitness.

Easy Emotional Fitness Exercises (www.emotionalfitnesstraining.com
The five components of Emotional Intelligence (www.sonoma.edu)Emotional Intelligence (en.wikipedia.org)Emotional Fitness Tips for Parents  (parentsarepeopletoo.com)
An Emotional Fitness Program for Parents(amazon.com)

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