Here’s a hard fact of life: Nothing works all the time, for all people, in all situations. Harder truth: Trying harder won’t make some dreams come true.

Questions to ask about reaching for a dream

” Why is it called Rush Hour when nothing is moving? ” Robin Williams

Added suggestions. If you have not put some  SMART goals under your dreams, you need to do so now. If you don’t want to do that, see that as wanting to enjoy the dream, but not being motivated enough to work at it. And that is fine, dreams are fun, just be realistic about yours.  Here is the SMART goal poster if you missed it.

How to set SMART Goals

parenting tips

Every child can be a STAR if not an academy award or most valuable player type. STARs are those who learn as they grow to Stop, Think, Act wisely, Reap rewards.  Children start off as FAT Heads; creatures who Feel, Act, and Think in that order.  FAT heads do things that get them into trouble,  create regrets or make others unhappy. Parents slowly but surely must help children learn to stop, see reality, think about what matters sot they can act wisely  Not easy and takes years.   The following tips help:

Tip one: Understand age and stage so your expectations of your child. Too many parents and care givers treat children like miniature adults, particularly about how children think. .

Tip two: Discipline matters. See this Parenting post for the ABCs of Discipline

Tip three: When your child dreams, put fun first.

Tip four: When your child is moving into puberty, teach SMART goal setting. Do so at a family business meeting?  Don’t have family business meetings? These are best started when your child enters school, but if you didn’t start then, start now.  Learn how. Get an in print copy of my  How To Hold a Successful Family Meeting from Create Space.  It costs less than a movie and will do more than entertain you for an hour or more. It is also available on Kindle.


I often use these prompts to spark my posts.  They work to improve  critical thinking – the heart of emotional intelligence. You can think about the prompts  as stated or use them to spark other thoughts which is what I usually do. If I put on my thinking cap the prompts can be related to Emotional Fitness. Here’s how I did that for this post.

DAILY PROMPT  –  Sparkling or Still: What’s your idea of a perfect day off: one during which you can quietly relax, doing nothing, or one with one fun activity lined up after the other? Tell us how you’d spend your time.

I like variation, so want still time and sparkling time.  Sharing knowledge and having people like what I say are the sparkles of my life.  Makes writing and blogging fun if not lucrative.


All the handouts and poster coaches for this course are being posted at the store so you can download them for free.

Apologies if you cannot find one.  I am a Jill of all in this business, so some things take longer than others.  If something used here isn’t posted yet, you will find lots of other offerings including inspirational quotes or more EFTI exercises. In time all will be posted.



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Thank you and work at staying strong until next time,. I work hard to do the same as life is often difficult but staying strong lets me find the good.



  1. I like the analogy with the blanket!

    I still have unrealistic dreams – but then it depends how you use them does it not?

    One example is falling in love with a man half my age who was never interested (really) in the same type of relationship. Still, I don’t mind having a male friend who isn’t after me and who can put me up when I go to his country for a holiday (which has happened).

    I doubt I would have had the courage to forge a friendship and then go to this country if I hadn’t been so enamoured. And because of the pain I have been motivated to do more with my free time, I think, to assuage it

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