An Emotional Fitness Snapshot Plus Three EFT Tips 

Rate yourself on the indicated scales. Note your score for each question and then add all the individual scores together for a final score.

1.What is your general mood?

Five	Four	Three	Two	One	Score
Fantastic	Very Good	Okay	Not Good	Suicidal

2. How much is stress a part of your life?

Five	Four	Three	Two	One	Score
No stress	Very little	Normal	Some	Too much

3. How do you feel about yourself?

Five	Four	Three	Two	One	Score
Love self	Like self	Okay	Don’t like	Hate self

4. What are your feelings about most other people?

Five	Four	Three	Two	One	Score
Love all	Like most	Half and half	Dislike most	Hate most

5. How much time do you spend with fear, worry, or anxiety?

Five	Four	Three	Two	One	Score
None	Very little	Some	Too much	Much too much

6. How much trouble do you get into because of anger?

Five	Four	Three	Two	One	Score
None	Little	Some	Lots	Arrested

7. How much do you get done despite negative feelings?

Five	Four	Three	Two	One	Score
High achiever	Get all done	Most done	Lots undone	Little done

8. Do you feel you are in control of your life?

Five	Four	Three	Two	One	Score
Yes	Mostly	More then not	Very little	Not at all

9. Do you take action and then wonder why you did not think first?

Five	Four	Three	Two	One	Score
Never	Rarely	Now and then	Often	Too often

10. Do feelings seem to come out of the blue and surprise you with their intensity?

Five	Four	Three	Two	One	Score
Never	Occasionally	Half and half	Lots	Often

11. When a strong feeling visits can you stay calm enough to act wisely /

Five	Four	Three	Two	One	Score
Always	Usually	Mostly	Not	Arrested

12. In a dispute of any kind, do you listen closely enough to the other person’s point of view to find some common ground?

Five	Four	Three	Two	One	Score
Always	Mostly	Often	Rarely	Never

13. Would you be described as a leader or a follower?

Five	Four	Three	Two	One	Score
Lead	Mostly lead	Bit of both	Mostly follow	Follower

14. Are you honest?

Five	Four	Three	Two	One	Score
To a fault	More than not	Mostly	Depends	Arrested

15. Are you a giver? Do you act kindly or take more than you give?

Five	Four	Three	Two	One	Score
To a fault	More than not	Mostly	Mostly take	Taker

16. Do manners matter to you?

Five	Four	Three	Two	One	Score
Absolutely	Yes	Usually	A little	Not at all

17. Have you been easy on yourself or hard in answering these questions?

Five	Four	Three	Two	One	Score
Hard	Mostly hard	Half and half	Mostly easy	Easy

18. How much would those who know you well agree will with your answers reflect you?

Five	Four	Three	Two	One	Score
Definitely	Mostly	Half and half	Somewhat	Little

Total score _________

How to score: Obviously, the higher your score the more you control negative feelings. However, while you scored 90,  you might be an Emotional Fitness Super Star or you might be lying to yourself.

Most people will score somewhere in the middle.

40 or below and you need to improve your emotional fitness; 18 would indicate the need for therapy.

Remember EFT’s tests are designed to start you thinking and are not research validated. Whatever this test made you think about, you will strengthen your emotional fitness – the ability to manage stress and negative feelings – by following these tips.

Emotional Fitness Training Tips

Tip one: Recognize and rate your flawed behavior.  Rating things is an important Emotional Fitness Skill. Why? In order to rate you must stop and think. Stopping to think helps you decide the best why to act. For example: Is letting go of your anger with nasty words is not the equivalent of beating some one up, but still hurtful. Better and more emotionally fit to learn to say what you mean, but do not say it mean.

Tip two: Once a day, make a conscious effort to forgive those who have hurt you and then to forgive yourself. Here is a post about forgiveness and letting go. 

Tip three: Strengthen your self-soothing skills. My easy Emotional Fitness Exercises will help you do that. For a quick introduction go here Emotional Fitness Exercises. 

Tip four: Set both a mission for your life, and SMART Goals for living the best everyday life possible.  Practicing Kindness is the healthiest mission. Get my e-Book Know Your Mission So You Can Reach Your Goals . It costs less than a movie and lasts a lifetime.

Tip five: As always Be Grateful, Practice Kindness, and Remember What Matters.

Thank you

Share all you find of value on the internet.  All who post crave recognition. A like says “Thank You.” Comments say you have read and thought about the post. Sharing is a gift to three people: the writer, the people you share with, and you as being kind blesses you.

Katherine

Post Inspiration: How this post relates to this  WordPress Daily Prompt: Avid . This was not inspied by this prompt, but the more avid or strong a feeling, the more likely it is to control you and erode your emotional fitness. Go here to learn more about the Daily Prompts.

Links of Interest

These links are for those not familiar with Emotional Intelligence or the idea of Emotional Fitness.

• Emotional Intelligence (en.wikipedia.org)
• The five components of emotional Intelligence (www.sonoma.edu)
• About Emotional Fitness Training (emotionalfitnesstraining.com)

Even the most learned researchers and therapists quarrel about much.  Take their advice and mine carefully.  Don’t just listen to your heart, but also think; don’t just think, listen to your heart.  Heart and head working together increase the odds you will find useful advice amid all the promises and hopes pushed at you be others.  As others have noted, take what seems useful, leave the rest.

Disclaimer two: Forgive my grammatical errors

If  you need perfect posts, you will not find them  here;  I will understand if you don’t follow, like or share what  like me.  Not only am I dealing with an aging brain, but all of my life I have been plagued by dysgraphia–a learning disability,  Some of my posts might be peppered with bad spelling, poor punctuation, and worse words that make no sense.  If  you want to hang in with me, thank you; you are kind. If a post doesn’t make sense or bugs you too much, stop reading, I will understand.