How To Avoid the Blame Game – 3 Tips

Blaming is part of our genetic heritage. When bad things happen, we need to find the cause to prevent future hurt. Makes sense, but Pogo knew better.

Thank you Jimmie Peacock for this.

Thank you Jimmy Peacock for this.

Don’ t remember what Pogo said? He said, “We have met the enemy and he is us.” Walt Kelley made a poster of this cartoon character for the first Earth Day  held on  April 22, 1970.  That was several generations after mine.  But as a fan of Joni  Mitchell’s song the Big Yellow Taxi I became an environmentalist. Still am.  Here’s one verse. 

They paved paradise
And put up a parking lot
With a pink hotel, a boutique
And a swinging hot SPOT
Don’t it always seem to go
That you don’t know what you’ve got
‘Til it’s gone

The song seems even more true today. I moved six years ago to Colorado where “..t.e deer and the antelope roam.”  We made the move from the pavements of New York to the foothills of the Rocky Mountains to be near our youngest son and grandchildren.  A good move, but Colorado is booming slowly de-nuding some of the mountains amd paving lots of meadows.

Not good, but almost inevitable. What to do?  To me this all fits under the Emotional Fitness Easy Exercise “Remember What Matters.”

Emotional Fitness Tip one: Do your part. For some that means protesting, for others sitting on development review boards.

For me, I am a trash collector. Colorado abounds with trails and parks and for the most part they are pristine. So pristine, however that an empty soda can is a desecration – at least to me. So when I walk I collect the trash others leave and dump it where it belongs. I am sad to say, the amount of trash has grown over the six years I been trying to clean up after others. That leads me to my second tip.

Emotional Fitness Tip two: This is for parents, but not parents alone. Teach children and thoughtless adults not to foul earth’s nest.  When I am trash picking, and I I look whoever is around in the eye and say “Not nice.”  Most smile and shake their heads, but a few blush. I hope the blushers mend their ways.

I sometimes leave the trash and post a sign on it “Shame on all trash dumpers.” Why some call me a Cranky Old Lady.  When I see trash, that part of me does emerge.

Emotional Fitness Tip three: Practice conservation. Buy less, use less,   reuse, and recycle.  Read E.F. Schumacher’s book Small is Beautiful.

The ad men don’t agree and want you to buy, buy, buy. They preach  new is better; bigger is better, more often is better. .Do  you know how the shampoo people more than  tripled  their sales? First by telling you to soap up twice, and more recently by encouraging shampooing  every day.


Remember sharing is caring and the easiest way to practice kindness is to share this post if you found it helpful.  Share it even if it doesn’t speak to you, it will speak to some. Didn’t like it?  Comment and tell me why and how to improve

Thank you.


This blog post  was inspired by this WordPress Daily Prompt:  Generation XYZ —  Think about the generation immediately younger or older than you. What do you understand least about them — and what can you learn from them?

My answer is above.


These links are for those not familiar with Emotional Intelligence or the idea of Emotional Fitness.


One Comment

  1. There’s a lot of litter here too. It’s a shame people care so little.
    Any group can participate in the Adopt A Highway program. They provide signage, safety vests and garbage bags. It’s kind of fun, really and your group gets their name on a sign. 🙂

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