A DAILY POST CHALLENGE TOPIC 49 DOWN on yourself about lying? Promised yesterday, that I would continue talking about how to be more honest. Yesterday I discussed the lies we tell to protect ourselves. It was discussed in this article.
Not discussed in the article are the lies we tell to protect others. Lies we call white lies. The push on the part of many leadership gurus (remember, I define parents, teachers, preachers, bosses, coaches, even peers as leaders) push praise and rarely if ever criticizing or telling a negative truth. Bosses and preachers are allowed a bit more leeway, but parents and teachers and coaches are instructed to “Catch them doing right.” Criticism is thought to be punishing and punishment is in bad repute.
My father was born to praise. His Golden Rule: “If you can’t say anything nice, shut your mouth.” Not as great as you think. You never could be quite sure if it was his love talking or his policy. Confession: Know one of the reasons I fell for the man I married and stayed married to is he tells it like it is. No doubt at all where you stand. And, of course, there are times I would like him to shut is mouth. But, I rely on the fact that he says what he means and means what he says.
Recently, I was drawn to a book that was recommended by some people on an E-Mail list. It had been written by one of the people on the list. The reviews were good, the book had potential, but needed careful copy editing. I was a bit pissed. Some one who is reading my book for me, sent some heavy criticism, but it was right on and I am grateful.
As I am typing this I recall my first encounter with a friend who held her tongue instead of telling me like it was. I think I must have been in the third grade. We were all lined up for class pictures. I asked the girl next to me, if my hair looked okay.
She said, “Fine.”
When the pictures came back, she either was blind or lied. My hair looked like I had stuck my finger in a light socket. Humiliating.
Sometimes, being kind isn’t.
STAYING STRONG TIP White lies are tempting, and may do no harm, but truth builds trust. As much as the truth might hurt, the person who tells it like it is and does so with your interests in their heart is a friend to cherish.
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