How To Better Choose The Good Life – 3 Tips

Yes, you have choices, but not at many as the “Just Do It” ranters think. They lie. However, you probably have more choices than you think.

Lies about choice

As Victor Frankel, a psychiatrist who lost all his family in the Nazi’s Holocaust, and author of Man’s Search for Meaning, noted, “Everything can be taken from a man but one thing: the last of the human freedoms—to choose one’s attitude in any given set of circumstances, to choose one’s own way.”

For many in the camps, that became choosing to turn their face to the wall and die. For others it was make sure the world remembered. For some it was to gain revenge. For others it was to help their fellow sufferers. I like to think, I would be strong enough to choose to help others, but that is a hope not a guarantee.  I can fully understand the other choices.

I also understand that choosing your attitude guaranteed nothing. Death stalked the camp residents without thought, rhyme or reason. You could be walking in the open and a guard could have indigestion and you’d be shot because of his sour stomach.

I know we all revere Anne Frank, but I cannot help but wonder how she felt during her last few days at Bergen-Belsen as she and her sister lay dying of typhus. My point – at some point life can do in those with the best of attitudes


Emotional Fitness Training tip one:  When faced with a choice, think about what you control and what you do not control. The weather? Other people? Winning the lottery?

The lottery is a good one for you only control whether you are in it, not if you will win it. Why I buy one lottery ticket a week.

Emotional Fitness Training tip two: We tend to make the wrong choice when our hearts are more involved than our heads. For example, watch any of the auditions for the very popular TV shows like American’s God Talent, or American Idol. Many are talented, but some just think they are talented. Sad, but friends and family seem to think just trying is all that matters. A lie.

Emotional Fitness Training tip three: Polish your self-soothing skills so you can be calmer and better able to focus on what matters. Start with these four Easy Emotional Fitness Exercises.

POST INSPIRED by this Word Press Daily Post Prompt: Choose Your Adventure — Write a story or post with an open ending, and let your readers invent the conclusion.

My story.  I had a choice, grateful for the choice and that I made a good one.  Did you have an important choice to make today? Did you make the right one?


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These links are for those not familiar with Emotional Intelligence or the idea of Emotional Fitness.


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