How To Defeat False Expectations Appearing Real AKA FEAR

 Thich Nhah Hanh Quote

Emotional Fitness Thoughts

Think about the above and then think about how it applies to political, religious, racial ranting, even to peaceful protests. We share our fears to dilute them. Helpful when done in small doses and privately with one or two others.

Reality check: Everyone wants the comfort of knowing our fears are shared. However, when such comfort mainly comes only by sharing the fear, the fear grows.

Emotional Fitness Training Tips

Tip one: Challenge fears with a safety check. Who is in physical danger right now? Not you unless you are sitting in a burning house and using your computer to call for help.

Tip two: Avoid what increases fear. Watch less news. Avoid discussions that only add to your fear or anger.

Anger is fear disguised – we fear being hurt and when hurt we fight or flee. Better to flee than to get trapped by anger into doing things that you regret or hurt others.

Tip three: Stay in the now. You cannot change the past or predict the future. Avoid situations that increase either future fears or past hurts.

Tip four: Strengthen your self-soothing skills. For a quick lesson check out these Emotional Fitness Exercises. For a longer last lesson, buy EFT’s Self-soothing To Create Calm in Your Life

Tip five: Do more of what offers hope and comfort. For some that may be attending religious services, for everyone, it means practicing kindness and pursuing change civilly through thoughtful civic actions.

Thank you for all you do

Remember to share all you find of value on the internet.  All who post crave recognition. A like says “Thank You.” Comments say you have read and thought about the post. Sharing is a gift to three people: the blogger, the people you share with, and you for your kindness blesses you.


Post Inspiration: This post was inspired WordPress Daily Prompt: Resist . We have to do what we are able to do to bring peace on earth.

Go here to learn more about the Daily Prompts.

Links of Interest

These links are for those not familiar with Emotional Intelligence or the idea of Emotional Fitness.

Even the most learned researchers and therapists quarrel about much.  Take their advice and mine carefully.  Don’t just listen to your heart, but also think; don’t just think, listen to your heart.  Heart and head working together increase the odds you will find useful advice amid all the promises and hopes pushed at you be others.  As others have noted, take what seems useful, leave the rest.

Disclaimer two: Forgive my grammatical errors

If  you need perfect posts, you will not find them  here;  I will understand if you don’t follow, like or share what  like me.  Not only am I dealing with an aging brain, but all of my life I have been plagued by dysgraphia–a learning disability,  Some of my posts might be peppered with bad spelling, poor punctuation, and worse words that make no sense.  If  you want to hang in with me, thank you; you are kind. If a post doesn’t make sense or bugs you too much, stop reading, I will understand.

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