As a Jew this is the time of year to examine your behavior, seek forgiveness when you have failed go follow the right path, forgive others, and move forward.
Emotional fitness thoughts
A guilty conscience is the first line of punishment. Forgiving others begins with realizing your need for forgiveness and examining your guilty conscience. Why? Doing so connects you to what Judaism calls your “Evil Inclinations.”
We all “Evil Inclinations” These are the selfish parts of each human that seeks personal needs without regard to others. Knowing our capacity for evil builds empathy, not just for yourself, but for those who do evil.
The second of the ten commandments prohibits Idolatry. The simplest way to think of the sin of Idolatry is to see it as “I Idolize I.” I put my needs and wants above all others and do not care how others are hurt when I am seeking to meet my wants and desires.
Judaism’s central premise of ethical behavior is not to hurt others in ways you do not want to be hurt. The central mission of Judaism is the practice of Tikkun Olam, repairing the universe – trying to bring about a just and kind world.
Sins are not just personal faults or mis-doings according to Judaism. On Yom Kippur all observant Jews will gather to confess not only their personal sins but all sins. I have not murdered, but I will confess to murder; I will confess all sins whether I have personally sinned or not.
Why must I confess other people’s sins? Because when a member of the community sins, all in the community have failed, and therefore, all have sinned.
Emotional fitness tips
Tip one: Make practicing forgiveness a daily exercise. Here’s one of my Poster Coaches laying out an easy forgiveness exercise. It starts with forgiving yourself.
Tip two: Find a community to support justice and mercy. We need justice in the world because evil takes over individuals and then evil individuals come together to overrule justice and kindness. We need a community because we need support in our efforts to practice justice and kindeness.
Tip three: Stay safe and keep other’s safe. Forgiveness does not mean allowing yourself to be endangered or physically assaulted.
This is why I want karate Peace Dojo’s to part of every educational facility. The world would be better if all students were taught what Peace Dojo’s teach.
Tip four: Grow both your self-awareness and your understanding of why others behave as they do. As one sage said, “To understand all is to forgive all.”
Tip five: Do not be swayed by evil beliefs dressed in fancy clothes. Here are five examples:
- Your parents, friends, teachers, preachers, celebrities, journalists, politicians, world leaders all speak the truth and nothing but the truth. Truth is in the eye of the beholder at least when spilled forth from a human mouth or pen or brain. You need to read oppositional points of view and even then your biases will often lead you to simple but not complete views of the truth.
- Things will make you happy: Despite all that the admen want you to believe, things cannot make you happy. Nor can winning the lottery, becoming a media star, being prettier, or having more money in the bank.
- You can have it all: Just not possible. You can have lots, but no one has it all.
- You can just do it: Oprah says if she became a star anyone can. She lies. She demeans her talents and drive. She also sets a side luck meaning she had people who believed in her and she was in the right place at the right time. Imagine if she had been born before Lincoln freed the slaves.
- Follow your heart, your gut or your intuition. Love is blind, murderers follow their guy, intuition only works some of the time. Marrying thought and heart, gut, intuition works best.
At the moment of our death, some say, our lives flash before our eyes. Getting stuck in the viewing the evil we have done is my personal idea of hell. We know deep in our hearts all we have done wrong. Not just the stuff of our personal consciences which are dictated by our culture, our families, and our personal experiences, but the stuff viewed by the eyes of the Creator, the Higher Power, or what most of us call our God.
One of the thoughts about Yom Kippur, is that is the day God judges humankind, but then leaves the throne of justice and sits on the throne of mercy. From that throne forgiveness is given all who see they have sinned and seek to sin no more.
Knowing what matters and knowing that is being kind, makes forgiving all th more possible. My Mission and Goals E-book elaborates on that concept.
If you like this post share it with another. That is practicing deliberate kindness which is another easy Emotional Fitness Exercise and the sublect of today’s Free Poster Coach.
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LINKS OF INTEREST
- Forgiveness (mayoclinic.org)
- Yom Kipppur (en.wikipedia.org
- Emotional Intelligence (en.wikipedia.org)
- WordPress Daily Prompts (wordpress.com)
Yes, I howl at the moon, but I try to remember what matters and to behave accordingly.
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