Whether it is caring for you or for another, you need to hone the skill of forgiveness. All humans need to be forgiving and forgiven.
Some things are unforgivable, but very few. When seeking to forgive your self and others, rate what you are seeking to forgive on a scale of ten. Here’s mine:
- Murder is at the top and = 10.
- Killing another in self defense =9
- Physical torture or assault = 8
- Slavery = 7
- Theft = 6
- Betrayal and emotional abuse = 5
- Name calling, harmful gossip, and character assaults = 4
- Conflicting needs of yours that hurt another = 3
- Unintentional emotional hurts and slights = 2
- No hurts but to your conscience = 1
Debate flourishes around some of these. For example the question of slavery. Does the business world enslave people. Yes, and yet not the same as those held captive and forced to work against their will.
Another example? Excessive profit taking can be a form of theft, withholding help from the truly needy another form.
Betrayal, emotional abuse, name calling, harmful gossip, character assaults and on down are murkier.
To think more about universal morality, visit the Links of Importance at the bottom of this post. .
Most of us do two things that make forgiveness more difficult. We awfulize the level 5 and below hurts that others impose on us. Better to forgive as hanging on to such things only really hurts you. No one can hurt or emotionally abuse you without some consent on your part.
The second things we do about forgiving ourselves. There we awfulize are small sins and feel like with have murdered another and often when they do not feel we have hurt them at all.
Parenting goes better if you practice forgiving yourself, your child, your other parent, and others who care. Doing so models what matters. It also helps to teach your child the art of apologizing. So make sure you apology properly and often when you hurt your child.
IMPROVE YOUR CRITICAL THINKING SKILLS
The heart of emotional intelligence is the ability to know what your heart tells you to do, but then partnering with your thinking skills so you make the best decision possible. I use Daily Prompts to help me think more critically. Here’s today’s.
DAILY PROMPT Time Capsule: What would you put in this year’s time capsule to channel the essence of our current moment for future generations?
Easy: Each generation needs to learn to practice kindness, forgiveness of others, forgiveness of self if there is to be peace on earth.
How would you answer this prompt?
Links of importance
- Three Steps to Forgiveness (emotionalfitnesstraining.com)
- Forgiveness (mayoclinic.org)
- Forgiveness of self (webmd.com)
- Universal morality (universalmorality)
- The Seven Laws of Noah (en.wikipedia.org)
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Poster Coaches can also be used at family, staff meetings, in classes to motivate or spark discussions. Many are free.
THANK YOU FOR ALL YOU DO
Keep working to stay strong, I work hard to do the same. Like daily physical fitness keeps you strong, practicing some Emotional Fitness Training Exercises keeps you emotionally strong. Forgiving others is one; forgiving yourself another.
Remember’s sharing is caring and the easiest way to Practice Kindness (an easy Emotional Fitness Exercise is to share this post if you found it helpful. Thank you.