SESSION ONE: Anger, shame, guilt, fear, desire, pain, sadness, jealousy, or lust bossing you? Take this EFTI course and boss the feelings trying to boss you.
Emotional Fitness tRAINING’s 101 Course
I am offering this course on my blog and Emotional Fitness Facebook Page. The course puts you in charge of the feelings that boss you and create problems. Being in charge of your feelings keeps you on the path to the good life.
WHAT IS EMOTIONAL FITNESS?
Emotional fitness is about managing feelings. We can own our feelings or our feelings can own us. Anger is a feeling that tries to own us: “I was angry; I couldn’t help myself.” Sadness is another feeling that can own us. “I couldn’t do my work, I was so sad, I just sat there and cried.” When we own our feelings, we are in control.
We are in charge of some feelings, not in charge of others. Sometimes we soar; sometimes we can’t get off the ground. Everyone’s ability to manage one or another negative feeling can be improved. Taking control of your feelings requires mastery of six skills
- Feeling awareness: knowing when a feeling starts and how accurately name various feelings.
- Feeling measurement: knowing how to measure the growth of negative feelings so you can take action before the feeling controls you.
- Self-soothing: calming the body so feelings do not take over.
- Focusing the mind on what matters: knowing what is important—having a life affirming mission, setting positive goals
- Feeling management: strategizing or thinking about how to act on what is important.
- Acceptance and letting go: dealing with what cannot be changed.
EFTI programs are based on the fitness model. Even if born with a great athletic talent, you need practice and training to become a star. So it is with emotional fitness; emotional fitness levels and needs vary as widely as physical fitness levels and needs. To star at managing feelings, you need training and practice.
WHAt You need to know about the course
The course is based on courses I taught as a professor at Columbia University Graduate School of Social Work, on my experiences as the director of New York City crisis teams before, during and after 9/11, on my years as a foster parent caring for teens in trouble with the law, and on the growing interest in Emotional Intelligence.
My unique experience as a foster parent, lead me to want to turn clinical knowledge into practical tips and exercises. There are six skills, and twelve daily exercises to review or learn, and then strengthen.
The course is also designed to take at several levels. You can just scan the posts and take what you want or need when you can.
You can obtain a certificate of accomplishment for adding to your resume by taking the course as you would a college course. Doing so involves taking several mastery based tests as you work through the course. The mastery approach involves a self-graded testing system. When you take the test, if you fail, you simply review the material and take the test again. Few fail as the course is specifically designed to answer the questions. When you complete the course this way, you need to pay a small fee for the processing of your tests and issuing the certificate.
If you need a certificate of completion for anger management, please contact us at [email protected] for more information. Taking the course may be enough, but more might be needed if you are court referred mandated to take anger management.
Finally, those with credentials as a therapist or coach can use the course as the springboard for licensing as an Emotional Fitness Trainer. If that is your interest contact me at [email protected]
To start you off, here are some feelings facts you need to know and think about.
One of the questions on a test would be to state Feeling Fact Number Seven as that is the essentially Emotional Fitness Training’s Game Plan.
If you are a parent, taking this course, buffers you against the slings and arrows involved in raising children. Most importantly, however, the more emotionally fit you are, the more emotionally fit your children will be.
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LINKS OF INTEREST
POST INSPIRATION: DAILY PROMPT
IN TRANSIT: Train stations, airport terminals, subway stops: soulless spaces full of distracted, stressed zombies, or magical sets for fleeting, interlocking human stories?
Life is always in transit and most of the magic comes from you and your willingness to connect kindly to others. Emotion Fitness Training makes that more possible.
Go to the EFTI store and browse its offerings for inspirational quotes or exercises. Go there and subscribe to be notified of new additions. Eventually, all the course handouts will be there.