Holidays are for creating good memories. Good memories help you hold on to all that is good. This EFT exercise strengthens the good ones.
Because our brains are survival based, bad memories are more firmly embedded than good ones. What makes it worse is the bad ones often come on like 911 calls. What to do?
Emotional Fitness Training Tips
Tip one: create and keep a memory book. Life is often a struggle. A Memory Book honors our struggles, reminds us we are strong and helps us hold onto the good. A Memory Book is more than a photograph album. A Memory Book is a way of making sense of life and how it changes.
Some Memory Books are one page long, others hold only a few pages stapled together, others cover a life time and get housed in expensive leather covers.
Size is not as important as what the book holds. One page holding the right memories is often worth more than a hundred pages of pictures that carry little meaning. A picture is worth a 1000 words but pictures plus some words are priceless.
Tip two: Create a good memory brain file so you can draw on your good memories when needed. This is done by creating some sanctuaries, first in your home, and then in your mind.
Tip three: Use the above tips to regularly practice EFT’s Hold On to the Good Exercise. Here are the steps to that exercise:
- Go to a physical sanctuary. Some think of their bed as a sanctuary and do this exercise at night before falling asleep.
- Consciously relax by spending a minute tensing and then releasing all your body. Start at your head and work down section by section.
- Take a Calming Breath.
- Go to your Imaginary Sanctuary. For some this is best done by picturing it in your mind; others do better describing themselves there.
- Review the day. Say good-by to the bad things, embrace all that was good.
- Take a Calming Breath when you are ready to end the exercise.
Parenting tip one: Parents start a child’s Memory Book, but as soon as possible, the child should be part of creating hers or his Memory Books, These will often be a page or a smaller book. When collected these pages and smaller books become larger Memory Books or become part of a Family’s Memory Book.
Memory Books can be made for many things–baby’s first day home, first steps, special people, special days, ordinary days, marriages, graduations, vacations, all good things.
Parenting tip two: Parents must keep Memory Books safe. Some teens have thrown away a Memory Book and in time, deeply regretted doing so.
Parenting tip three: Include bad times once they have passed for bad times teach lessons. The lessons? Bad times that have passed teach the idea that life is full of change, good times come and then go; the same with bad times. Second lesson: how strong we are. .
THANK YOu for All you do
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LINKS OF INTEREST
These links are for those not familiar with Emotional Intelligence or the idea of Emotional Fitness.
Easy Emotional Fitness Exercises (www.emotionalfitnesstraining.com
The five components of Emotional Intelligence (www.sonoma.edu)Emotional Intelligence (en.wikipedia.org)Emotional Fitness Tips for Parents (parentsarepeopletoo.com)
An Emotional Fitness Program for Parents(amazon.com)
A Critical Thinking Exercise
I use WordPress Daily Prompts to inspire some posts, but just as often read them after I’ve written a post. That forces me to think a bit about how the prompt relates to what I have written. Then the it then becomes a Critical Thinking Exercise.
This DAILY PROMPT did not inspire me: Generous Genies _Remember those lovely genies who grant wishes? Well, you’re one and you’ve just been emancipated from your restrictive lamp. You can give your three wishes to whomever you want. Who do you give your three wishes to, and why?
I’d give one to all the world – peace in our time
I’d give one to all children a safe place to live, water, food, health care, people who love them, time to laugh and play, and time to learn.
I’d give all who feel beaten down, success, and good memories.
What would you give.
In terms of this post it was inspired by the idea of Throw Back Thursdays and I edited and added to a past blog post.
What it did bring to mind was to think about the next week’s blog posts. I wanted something that tied in with New Year’s Resolutions, but was a bit more thoughtful and most of all more realistic. So next weeks it is Missions and Goals.