How To Know When To Ask For Help -3 Tips

Struggling? Don’t know what to do or how to do it? Feeling out of control? You need  help, but first a laugh.

Asking for help joke

An old one, but worth thinking about.

Too many people think it is a sign of weakness to ask for help. It isn’t. In fact most often it is the smart think to do. The very rich know that, although they do not think of paying people to do stuff for you as asking for help.

Emotional Fitness tip one: Ask for all the help you can get that you can afford to pay for. That gives you time to do more of what you love to do.

Emotional Fitness tip two:  Ask for help when your own efforts do not succeed after trying. I go by a three strike, three outs formula and sometimes also wait nine innings before giving up. Nine innings are too long,  but at least three tries is wise.

Emotional Fitness tip three: Think about asking for help if others suggest it is needed. There is a Yiddish proverb that relates to this.“If one person calls you an ass pay no mind, but if  two people call you an ass buy a saddle. “


Teach your children to ask for help by practicing the above tips. Also ask for their help as often as you can. A toddler can help you put away toys, a three-year old can help you clear the table, older kids can do more.

Reward helpful behavior, but not excessively. “Thank you for helping” is sufficient for the small ones. Teens might do better being paid to relieve you of some jobs, but only if doing other chores well and as part of the family.


Remember sharing is caring and the easiest way to practice kindness is to share this post if you found it helpful.  Share it even if it doesn’t speak to you, it will speak to some. Didn’t like it?  Comment and tell me why and how to improve.


This post was inspired by this WordPress Daily Prompt;  No, Thank You – If you could permanently ban a word from general usage, which one would it be? Why?

Later: I have found when I ask for help, particularly, men and boys, their most usual response is “Later.” Some times “Later” never comes.


These links are for those not familiar with Emotional Intelligence or the idea of Emotional Fitness.




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