How to know who to trust

How do you size someone up when first meeting them?  Do you let your instincts guide you? Listen to your heart? Create labels in your mind? Shame on you.



Today’s Word Press Prompt posed this:  Litmus, Litmus on the Wall –  If you had to come up with one question, the answer to which would determine whether or not you could be friends with a person you’ve just met, what would it be? What would the right answer be?

My answer? Thank you but no thank you.  You are indulging in the twisted thinking known as  generalization when you decide who you will like and not like on the basis of one question.

Yes, I suppose you could get very creative and come up with a clever question. Unless that question  is, “Want to spend some time together to  get to know each other?” your heart or intuition is guiding you. Not as helpful as you like to believe.

All other questions will be just the answer to one question.  I don’t want to judged on such feeble information; I suspect you do not wish that either.

My mother often said she would not have married my father, if he hadn’t been tall.  Sad for she would have missed out on life with a wonderful man who adored her.

A Tip: Take time to know someone before deciding if they are friend or foe.  Unless of course they are holding a gun and pointing it at you. Even then your instinct


Sound bytes seem to be ruling thought. Not useful.  For some things there are neither quick or easy answers.  The media loves sound bytes and so does our brain. Makes decision making easier, but not smarter when it comes to many things.  For the really imporant stuff, like the people you let into your heart or trying to bring peace on earth going slower works best.

Thank you for all you do. Please share this if you found it helpful. You will be practicing kindness for you, me, and  hopefully some others.




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One Comment

  1. Well said. I declined this prompt because I know by long experience that there is no one question that will magically give the right answer to a potential friend (or foe). I also love your CS Lewis quote. People… they are a conundrum. Oddly, the older I get, the more experiences I have, the LESS I feel like I know how and who to trust.

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