How to Laugh More

Laughing improves both the here and now, but also strengthens your emotional fitness, what many call Emotional Intelligence.

Three jokes about therapy

Note: I am not opposed to therapy, just to bad therapy.

For many of us therapy might help, but we also need to improve our self-care . Emotional Fitness Training Exercises are not therapy, but many are built on proven therapeutic behaviors.  I developed it as a stepping stone to better emotional health, but also to provide information about therapy, good and bad,  If you are more sad than happy, cannot do what you need to do, have suicidal plans, plans to hurt others you need more than my exercises. This post is about adding laughter to your life. 

Emotional Fitness Training Tips

Here are  some tips about quick and easy ways to add laughter to your life, the first two are warnings:

Emotional Fitness Tip One: : Put down jokes have some value, but not if your anger grows or they incite you to contemplate acting violently.  When viewing such jokes I check if I am getting angry; if so, I move onto to nicer jokes.

Emotional Fitness Tip One:  When you cannot laugh you probably need some therapy or crisis debriefing. Minimally, you are probably a bit too sensitive and need to bolster your self soothing skills. Think of buying my book Self-soothing to Create Calm in Your Life. At the worse you are like the fanatics who want to kill because of political cartoons that rub them the wrong way; then you definitely need to see a therapist. Now on the adding laughter to your life.

Emotional Fitness Tip Two: Look for jokes while surfing the internet, reading the newspapers.

Emotional Fitness Tip Three: Watch funny sitcoms, funny movies, and video.

Emotional Fitness Tip Four: Go to a local comedy club.  

Emotional Fitness Tip Five: Try some laughing yoga.

Facebook has a number  Laughing Yoga Pages.  Follow one.   I like Laughter Yoga.

Emotional Fitness Tip Six: Help others laugh. Post funny one-liners at work or around the house.

Emotional Fitness Tip Seven: Have joke contests – every one tells a joke and the one who gets the most laughs gets a candy bar.

Emotional Fitness Tip; Eight:  Develop some throwaway lines and use them. Comedians use them all the time when joke do not work. Borrow some of theirs:

  • “Guess I’m not ready for the Comedy Show.”
  •  “I told the writers that one wouldn’t get a laugh.”

More general ones that sometimes work for me:

  • Sorry, my brain shut down for a few minutes, what did you say.”
  • Opps, guess I missed the lectures on that in graduate school.”
  • Going back to the command station to see if I can get clarity.
  • Beam me up Scotty, I need help.
  • My mouth out raced my brain.

Parenting advice

Many of the above apply to children. However, not mentioned were laughing contests. a variation of laughing yoga. If involving only two people, you sit facing each other and alternate laughing.

Laughing contests can be used to help two angry children calm down. Put them in time-out but facing each other in chairs about two feet apart. Start them off  making angry faces. and then have one take a calming breathe and work at trying to make the other laugh for a minute or so. Call for another calming breath and have the second kid be the laugh maker.  When both are laughing at the same time, they can be released from time out.

PRACTICE KINDNESS

Kindness improves emotional fitness and the ability to withstand life’s bad times.  You can practice kindness right now by liking, commenting, or sharing this post.

Thank you and work at staying strong until next time.  I work on doing that all the time.

Katherine

Seven Wonders  Khalil Gibran once said that people will never understand one another unless language is reduced to seven words. What would your seven words be?

However, a few days ago I posted on four words to use when others are suffering. You might want to read that post.

As for Seven Essential words?  Yes. No. Maybe. Need help. I care.

Need help would be a comment or a question.

What would your seven words be?

LINKS OF INTEREST

These links are for those not familiar with Emotional Intelligence or the idea of Emotional Fitness.

Emotional Intelligence (en.wikipedia.org)
The five components of Emotional Intelligence (www.sonoma.edu)

 

 

Agree or disagree, comments are always welcomed.