How to Overcome Fear of Asking for Help

We don’t ask for help because we are afraid others might see us as less than perfect. Reality check:  we aren’t perfect, and it really doesn’t matter.

Emotional Fitness Training poster coach about acceptance versus imperfection.

Want tips about when you need to ask for help. That was yesterday’s blog-3 Times you must ask for help.  Had this joke which made the point that you also need to know when it has come.

Asking for help joke

Today’s post was inspired  by this WordPress Daily Prompt: I Am a Rock.  Is it easy for you to ask for help when you need it, or do you prefer to rely only on yourself? Why?

My mother always said, if you want something done the right way – which was, of course, her way, you have to do it yourself. True.

So I  try to be a rock, but also can and do ask for help. That did mean overcoming fear of being less than perfect. Because I have a learning disability, perfection has always eluded me. In time I realized it was a false value and mainly used by salesmen as a sneaky way to get you to buy stuff in your quest for being perfect.

perfectionism

The advice in that Poster Coach is good – change your self-talk. Think “Good enough” or “okay” or “the best I can do.”

The big Emotional Fitness Tip, however, is to let your humanity show.  Face the fear of being seen as less than perfect. The big gurus of feeling management know that the way to defeat a negative emotion is to do the opposite of what the feeling urges.:

  • Anger says “Fight.”
  • Fear says “Run.”
  • Imperfection which is driven  by shame says “Hide.”

So glory in being human. Not in a hang-dog, head-down ashamed way, but with your head high because you are strong enough to ask for help.

THANK YOU FOR ALL YOU DO

Remember sharing is caring and the easiest way to practice kindness is to share this post if you found it helpful.  Share it even if it doesn’t speak to you, it will speak to some. Didn’t like it?  Comment and tell me why and how to improve.

Katherine

LINKS OF INTEREST

These links are for those not familiar with Emotional Intelligence or the idea of Emotional Fitness.

 

2 Comments

    • So sad, but another part of the problem lies in the fact that many are not helped or not helped enough. Expecting perfection and enlightenment rather than accepting imperfection but focusing on what is good. I started Emotional Fitness Training, to combat stigma. Thank you for being part of my journey.

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