How To Settle For Good Enough – Five Tips

Today’s WordPress Challenge was to write for ten minutes and then stop and publish. You could edit, but  I have chosen not to edit. Why? Read on.

3 =2 =7 Dunce

That’s me, I cannot do math. But this post is about  disgryphia, a writting disoprder I also have. And how I still managed to publish two in print books and 20 ebooks. Dysgraphia taught my a number of things.  Those things? Living with imperfection is one.  When you can’t do something the way you want, you either keep trying or stop.  Many with learning disabilities and dysgprahia to one of two thinggs:

  1. Descide what they want to do cannot by done perfection and so stop. Ofen decdiding they are stupid.
  2. keep trying and failing and feeling bad.
  3. Keep trying and have a bit of success, but still feel stupid.

I fall into the third category.  I kept trying. There are lessons in why I kept trying.

One: was I had other talentes.  I loved reading and did not have dsylexia.  In the long run if you want to writed being a good reader helps. I also am very bright. Not bragging and I didn’t think so until well into my 50’s but I do think better than the average bear.

Two: My father loved wrting – he was a news reproter and published his own small weekly newspaper.  Parents model what matters.

Eary arly on I wanted to be an newspaper reporter. It was important to my dad and thereor important to me. And very soon I started loving to write also.

Three; IHad teacers who honored my strengths.  They saw  that I was bright inspite of my defiecientces.  They encouraged my brain more than perfection. Ture, my poor spelling lead to slightly lower grades, but my strengths carried me on.

Four: Along wtih caring teachers, I gree wup with lots less pressoure about school an d higher education than the kids to day. I loved learning and still do. Not that school was all fun.  I failed lots  – I also have dyscalculai and cannot do may/  I  basically passed my math courses on the kindness of teachers wjp would give me the lowest possible passing grade, but pass me.   I would not make it trhough todya’s testing.

Fvie:  Word processing came along and that mean I could corredt enough errors to get published. what I wronte that I had enough success to keep trying.

Six: Then I became a foster parent and in time my husband and I  cared for over 300 kids, 4 to 6 at a time,  all needing a home for a hort period of time.  Some a few days, others everal months.

Our kids were mostly teens and all in trouble with the law. Caring for so many troubled teens  became asomething unique to write about and eventually sell. My book Wehen Good Kids Do Bad Things  writing almost 40 years agot things is now available as an ebook and that has lead to getting other books published.

Seven:  I learned when good enough was good enough, perfection was  not needed.

EightLO leaned to live with failure, somthing kids donn’t get practice doing today.

Nine: Out of those lessons I developed my Emotional Fitness Programs and because life made me practece what I preach, I learned to focus on what matters, soothe myself when things got bad, live in the good as much as I possible.

Good life lessons that I am still trying to pass on.

Ten I learend when trying wa s not enough and that I could not do all I hoped or wanted to do. .

EMOTIONAL fITNESS TIPs

Tip one:  Perfection is rarely needed.  Even nerosurgerons only need to be neer perfect and I guess accountants would not keep their jobs if they could not do math. But do take the time to think about what needs to be near perfect, what is good enough, what should be done no matter how badly, and what can be left undone.

Tip two:Do as much of what you love as often as you can whether it breings success or just fthe joy of doing.

Tip three: Develop manners and a good work ethic. Most of us will not be stars and many of us will have to work at jobs we do not like inorder to pay the rest. Life. Manners and a good work ethic are job finders and keepers.

Tip four: Have a mission that matters and learn to set SMART goals and I have writtne a book about that.  SMART goals help you know when to stop. 

Tip five: Practice kindness and be grateful for all you have. 

STAY STRONG

Not mentioned inthe things I learned was that two things are needed to be a success in addition to some talent and hard work.  Those two things: luck and resources.

I had the luck to have a good brain, some talents and some of the essential resources.  The most essential resources are people who care and who have faith in you as you are.  My parents gave me that support; my teachers and eventually my editors gave me the dind of support needed to become a moderately successful writher.

I have not had the financial resources needed to hire help that would make my blog and ebook writing more successful.  Which is why it matters athat I love sharing knowledge and writing my blog.

There is a form of luck we ofther overlook.  My paretns also taught me that what really matters is whether you are kind and working to make the world better. You do have to have your personal phsycialc surviala needs to have the time and energy to practice kindness.  But the world is full of people who are barely surving, living in war zones and still manage daily acts o f kindness.  The more we have the more we are  obligated to help those who have less. when we have the emotinal strength or physical strength to help others we are among the luckiest.

If you like this post share it with another.  That is practicing deliberate kindness which is another easy Emotional Fitness Exercise and the sublect of today’s Free Poster Coach.

As always, thank you for your support.

Katherine

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This post was prompted by this Word Press DAILY PROMPT: Ready, Set, Done – Our weekly free-write is back: take ten minutes — no pauses! — to write about anything, unfiltered and unedited. You can then publish the post as-is, or edit a bit first — your call.

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