I won the lottery. Not that one. The one that gets me through all that is hard about this life. I don’t have all the answers, but know a bit of luck is needed.
Hope you laughed a little for laughing at both life’s absurdities and yourself is a major Emotional Fitness Training skill. Doing so is a matter of skill and can be learned. However, to survive really bad days more is needed.
Emotional Fitness Thoughts and Tips
Despite the popularity of the idea that we control our fate by controlling our thoughts, and we just need to “Do It, ” just doing it requires some luck.
Why to I rant so about this? Those of you who read me, are probably tired of those rants. Apologies, but just doing it does not work for the most people, but only creates despair or worse hatred.
For those of us lucky or blessed as some have it to have all we need and more, the danger is gluttony, wanting more and more of what feels good is always present.
The cries of just “Do it” do not feed the starving. Such cries lead to many of us who have much, feeling smug and less willing to help those who have less or little or not enough to survive on, let alone crawl their way to the good life.
Moreover, the cries of “Do it” are used by the advertising peopleto create dissatisfaction and increase sales.
Want the good life? Who doesn’t. Want to be happy? Who doesn’t. I do. Am I always happy? Ha. Not now, not through out my life. Am I always able to stay strong as I often suggest you do and as I tell myself to do? Not now, not through out my life. Am I always calm and kind and grateful. No, no, no. But I look back on many years and am satisfied I have done the best I could with all I have been given and that has meant being blessed, having good karma, or more than some “a little bit of luck.” I am grateful for that.
Here are today’ Emotional Fitness Training Tip:
Tip one: Life is a struggle, relationships often difficult, painful even murderous. That is reality, thinking otherwise is delusional and twisted thinking at its worse.
Tip two: Happiness is illusionary, something we stumble on it in amazing ways but only when luck or the blessing of whatever other powers control what we are given smile on us.
Tip three: The poets, the sages of the ages, and the researchers know true happiness lies in our sense of being good. “I have to live with myself and so I want to be good for myself to know.”
Tip four: Sadly our cultures or personal life experiences often teach us that happiness means overpowering others, controlling others. Sad, but true, many find happiness in violence. Bullies learn to be bullies because it feels very good to force someone to do what you want.
Tip five: It takes a village to raise a child, and the more those who want peace for all make up that village, the greater the chance peace will come to this world. Freedom is a major roadway to peace for all.
Tip six: The only way freedom exists is freedom for all to believe as they wish with one major exception. That exception? Forcing others in one way or another to believe as you do.
Tip seven: The golden rule, it all its forms is the true path to the good life, to feeling good about yourself, bringing peace to your heart, your small world, and the larger world we all inhabit.
Two forms of the Golden Rule exist. One form “Do not do what you would hate done to you. ” The second form “Do to others what you would others do to you.”
Tip eight: Even the Golden Rule in either form can be perverted. How? By drawing circles around and putting some in a circle labeled these deservesto be treated as the Golden Rule says; those outside this circle do not deserve such treatment.
Mostly I rely on self-soothing to get me through the very hard times we all face. One of the hardest practices is being grateful for all. Some say lessons are sent personally to you to correct unacceptable behavior.
That always seemed to be to blame people. I prefer to think life is full of lessons. We all have much to learn. When bad things happen, looking for some knowledge to add to our efforts to stay strong seems better than focusing on blame.
At the same time, we all fail to do what we can as best we can, so examining our personal behavior matters and as do working harder to do the best we can.
Thank you for all you do including liking, commenting, or sharing. Kindness blesses the giver and the receiver.
Links of interest
- Trauma Recovery (psychologytoday)
- Mans Search for Meaning (amazon.com)
- Emotional Intelligence (en.wikipedia.org)
- 12 Easy Emotional Fitness Exercises (amazon.com)
Daily Prompt Greetings, Stranger – You’re sitting at a café when a stranger approaches you. This person asks what your name is, and, for some reason, you reply. The stranger nods, “I’ve been looking for you.” What happens next?
I’d love to win the money lottery. The first thing I would do is pay off all my family’s debts. Then I would arrange for Emotional Fitness Training to exist beyond my feeble attempts. Paid help and a paid board of directors would make that possible. They would be charged with establishing scholarships, loans, and gifts to help many meet their dreams. First on the agenda would be those I know personally. I would love to have a big enough win to track down all my former foster children and make their lives or the lives of their children better. Then I would arrange get togethers for all I have met tin real life or through the social media, to feast a bit and find friends. Friends of all sorts matter most.