This blog is all about Emotional Fitness Training – training yourself with skills that keep you emotionally fit. Being emotionally fit of course involves dealing with feelings and first up in that process is naming the feelings correctly. We all know what we are feeling though, don’t we? Well, Katherine Gordy Levine, creator of this blog and author of Know Your Feelings – Become A Feeling Detective (An Emotional Fitness Training® Program) would argue that perhaps we don’t – not always. In fact if you find yourself on a merry-go-round of the same cycle of feeling and reactions, maybe it’s time to do some detective work.
From Know Your Feelings – Become A Feeling Detective (An Emotional Fitness Training® Program) …
You think you know what you feel. Most people do. The more powerful the feeling, the more certain you are that you know what you feel and how to act. Psycho babble supports that idea if you feel it, it is right to express it as the feeling suggests, but that is delusional. Psychobabble suggests what you feel justifies how you act. Delusional. As Damasio, a leading student of feelings, points out we are not aware of all our feelings. This means acting on the feeling of the moment might not be wise. Strong negative feelings, in particular, need to be investigated thoroughly before they are acted on.
Detectives seek out clues to a crime. They know what to look for when a crime has been committed. Their job is to sort through the various clues and determine what happened. Feelings signal their presence through feeling clues. A Feeling Detective’s job is to know and recognize feeling clues. Then they must sort through various feeling clues, until the feeling is properly named. Finally, they must stay aware of a negative feeling’s power, in order to remain in control.